Hello I am Dr Aamir and i will be answering your query. Well first of all you and your husband need to understand that it is not necessary that if a girl doesnot bleed on first night having sex. Lot of girls does not bleed at all and few bleed. It is a common myth in our culture that girl has to bleed first time she had sex. You have to convince him and make him talk to a doctor regarding this. I would like to advice you if you are already doing sex before marriage practise safe sex with condom . Because if you get sexually transmitted disease(STD) from your partner then he will probably know that you was sexually active before marriage. If you can not convince him after marriage about bleeding , you can do hymenoplasty by plastic surgeon but it is a expensive procedure. Hope i have answered your query , if you have further questions kindly let me know.