I need to know what to do about finding a surgeon that will listen to my ongoing battle with kidney stones. I have had 8 surgeries in the past year, lithotripsy, uteroscopic, tubes in back. I now know why I get them so much, para thyroid and I hope to have that surgery within in the next month, but that is not 100% fix. My basic problem now is that I have a stone in my kidney now that a month ago was 5mm, it is now 13x9x6. Because it is still in the kidney they don't want to take it out saying it causes no pain. I have never had one go into the pole, and I keep a UTI. What do I have to do to get a urologist to listen to me?