my daughter, her brother and my xhusband have ADHD or ADD. I am now 69 and I feel that I fit the description but I had myself tested and she said I did not have it...neurologist. My daughter is always agitated by me and sending me unkind misrepresentations of why I do things that she does not like. I doubt she is on meds now but Adderal helped she and her brother and X so much that my son graduated from Harvard business and my daughter owns her own house, has a wonderful husband and the most incredible calm daughter. She is in daycare all day across from their workplace. I have been diagnosed GAD and my meds are fine but I have ataxia. I tried Ritalin years ago and wrote a paper that was 20 pages long and got an A on it which was unusual for this professor and she said it was the most confusing paper she has ever read. As you can see, I just go on and on and share to many details by voice. I just want to be less anxious so I do mindfulness medication and DBT which I feel really saved me from depression and isolation I was feeling. Now I see everything in a good lite, even my daughter. I m just trying to help her share her feelings instead of texting me with BIG LETTERS in a text and saying things about my emails and texts that are total misrepresentations. She has a good sense of humor and I do too but we are just triggered all the time. I don t want to tell her she needs meds but I have told her that I do not want large letters and drama like this. She is really smart and usually has clear thinking. I think she is overwhelmed and just needs meds. She is an amazing mother but she treats her husband like me, at least when I visit with them....they are long distance. Usually see her once a year. I have taken the course of not responding to her anger and just reinforce kind communication and by trying to listen to her better. Okay..that s it. My question? How do I let her know lovingly that she might want to consider Adderal again. Oh, she has a picking disorder. She picks her face and said she likes the pain. Sounds like BPD. In college (she s 34) she used to pick her leg till it bled and told me she wanted me to tell her to stop. My x abused me once physically which she saw and I took her to a friend s. I also called 911 twice for verbal and violent behavior to a lamp. Last summer she said her father had a terrific temper but I didn t ask why she said it...I just asked her if she could imagine living 26 years with that. I want to listen better. I think she still needs me and I want her in my life, but I m always anxious in person...better by email and text...How do I help her calm down. She said once that she would be 30% more productive and that was before a child.