hi.. i have understood your concern..and your father's problem..
actually what you are telling as
depression is not a depression, but a psychotic illness in which person has false and firm beliefs..
here your father must be suffering from the
delusional disorder, infidelity type.. in delusion of infidelity a person has suspiciousness over his or her spouse, like they have physical relationship with other person, they are cheating..etc. because of this belief, the person is undergoing lots of
stress and feels depressed, he or she thinks that my life partner has cheated on me, now to whom i can trust in this world...they are very frustrated..and therefore shows anger outburst particularly on their spouses..
they also show behavior according to their belief, like in case of delusion of infidelity, they ll follow their spouse whenever they go outside home, check their clothings, repeatedly call them and ask for their location..they can put detectives behind them..they can become violent sometimes asking the name of person he or she is having relations..
so your father needs a psychiatrist consultation and proper treatment...if he is not willing to
consult a psychiatrist because he believes that he doesnt have any illness and whatever he is saying is truth, then u can give medications i am suggesting here without his knowledge..
u can give him medications which come in mouth dissolving preparation, which mixes in water, food without any smell, color and taste, like
tablet. tolaz MD [
olanzapine 5 mg] three time a day.. if he feels very sleepy and starts complaining then u can give one tablet in the morning and two tablets at night..
with this drug he became calm and his beliefs became shakable somewhat and after that u can ask him to consult a psychiatrist and take him for psychiatric interview,,
i hope u ll find this advice helpful.. best luck..