Hi, I have been with my fiance for 4 1/2 years now and I want to have sex, but I am sooo scared. When I was 16 I had a pap and the doctor was SOOO rough! I even bleed after he gave me my pap, it hurt the entire day, so now it is affecting my sex life. I am terrified to even let my fiancee near my vaginal hole...Please help me! What can I do??