My mom passed away from Lou Gherriggs disease a year ago and I lost my job and have been having trouble finding another one. I am not sleeping at night well and I am in a relationship with someone that I don t know if he really loves me and I was in love with my career but have been very depressed since I have been filling out applications and not getting interviews. My boyfriend abruptly moved in with me and is trying to change my way of life and can be rude at times and yell at me and then we start fighting. I have been burned in the past by men and have trouble trusting them. I miss my successful career and I am worrying constantly about what to do to fix my situation. I worry about money and worry about this man using me or treating me bad. I was in a few abusive relationships before this one is not like the others but this man has a rough past with things he did and sometimes I feel he just wants me for sex. Since I have no desire for sex right now I don t feel respected. I don t want him to cheat but I want him to see me for who I am. He never talks to me he had a weird upbringing with a mom and dad that didn t even sleep in the same bed. He treats me like a roommate or someone that just is there till he moves on. I am confused. I am not crazy but he tries to say I am. I have seen many therapists in the past I KNOW i m not crazy. I am just going through a hard time. Any advice would be welcome. Thank you.
Hello. Thank you for posting your query. Relationships are a two-way process. A relationship only succeeds when both the partners care about each others' needs. There are times when one partner can go through a bad phase,and this is where love comes into play. If he really loves you, he will understand you. You have to sit and talk to him and explain how much you love him. If he's being abusive and rude, you should try to move on. Similarly, if there are times where he wants to spend some quality time with you, you should give it to him too. You can't prioritize your career all the time, that will make him feel like you don't care. I feel both of you're lacking an insight to understand each other. Just relax for a few days, try to spend some quality time with him, and start afresh. You will have better results. Regards
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Hello. Thank you for posting your query. Relationships are a two-way process. A relationship only succeeds when both the partners care about each others needs. There are times when one partner can go through a bad phase,and this is where love comes into play. If he really loves you, he will understand you. You have to sit and talk to him and explain how much you love him. If he s being abusive and rude, you should try to move on. Similarly, if there are times where he wants to spend some quality time with you, you should give it to him too. You can t prioritize your career all the time, that will make him feel like you don t care. I feel both of you re lacking an insight to understand each other. Just relax for a few days, try to spend some quality time with him, and start afresh. You will have better results. Regards