My mother has stage 4 breast cancer that has gone to her bowels now. She wears a bag and don't want to change her own bag. Had me set up to do it, which I didn't agree to btw, then my dad took over much later on, because i had my hubby to take care of. Her kidney needs drain, or she could get sepsis, but she won't do it.. She has been hard to deal with since her operation in 2009. She never went into rehab after her operation , nor did she want a nurse in her home. She has be so had to deal with. My mom lies and plays games to try to stay out of th hospital. I don't know what else to do. The hospital and her cancer doc says she should be in hospice, but she said.. they want me in Hospice, talk to me like I am dying..I am not going to die until I am ready to die. What can I do with a person that refuses to listen, do what is right for herslef, and thinks if she ignores things, then she will be ok? My mom is in 100% denial on how bad she is.All my mom is worried about is trying to get her sister or family members to change her bag, and she is happy. My dad is just as tired of it as I was, but does nothing about it. He complains to me, but all he wants is a nother family member (my aunt now) to come deal with her, because that is what she wants too. My aunt won't help her, nor will my sister. I do not know what else to do.