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How To Create A Relationship Of Trust With Parents?
Hi, I m a working women. And my age is 25. The common problem..I face is love. I am struggling in between family and my love. My family didn t accept my love becoz of caste even though he is well settled. My mom is from village .but she is ok with my decision as the guys family have a good background. But my father he is educated..but he refuses our marriage . my mom can t support me..or she can t talk to my dad for me. She is in stress. So I left my job and now I m with my mom. My dads activities are very disturbing. That he is punishing my mom. My mom..cries to me..I can t stand to see my moms tears. But at the same time..I can t go to my parents leaving him. I am stressed more..and confused. And I am already engaged to another guy three year back and he stopped the marriage. As I was compelled to get married to him..I said ok. But after the engagement..understanding his. Character..I begged to my mom and dad..to stop the marriage. But they didn t hear my words. At one point my mom understood what it is ..but she can t talk to dad. And finally I was frustrated that they don t believe my words. The reason they gave is..we can t stop marriage becoz..everyone will talk bad about us. Hearing g those words..I was broken. They are more concerned about their status and relations. But my good time , he stopped the marriage. But after that I heard all bad feedbacks about him. My father still blames me. And now I am helpless. I don t want to go yo my father s side. But my mom is suffering. The words they use to convince me..it kills me day and night. Please help.
Wed, 18 Jun 2014
Hi,
Welcome to healthcare magic.
I have read the query and understand your problem.I would suggest you to have a proper discussion with your parents along with someone elder in your family,better to have someone to whose advice your father will oblige.Its important that the person whom you love should meet your father to let your father know how good a person he is and you have taken a right decision by choosing him.
In a country like India inter caste marriages are still difficult to accept due to different culture and traditions and it needs the determination of the couple to persuade their parents,gradually things will be in your favor.Its better if things get sorted out by having a talk,if not I suggest you stay with your mother,as she is the one who is trapped between you and your father.
Finally.if you really love the person as you say,be ready to face all the hardships that can arise and stay firm.
Hope this answers the query.
Regards,
Dr.Tushar Tamboli
Welcome to healthcare magic.
I have read the query and understand your problem.I would suggest you to have a proper discussion with your parents along with someone elder in your family,better to have someone to whose advice your father will oblige.Its important that the person whom you love should meet your father to let your father know how good a person he is and you have taken a right decision by choosing him.
In a country like India inter caste marriages are still difficult to accept due to different culture and traditions and it needs the determination of the couple to persuade their parents,gradually things will be in your favor.Its better if things get sorted out by having a talk,if not I suggest you stay with your mother,as she is the one who is trapped between you and your father.
Finally.if you really love the person as you say,be ready to face all the hardships that can arise and stay firm.
Hope this answers the query.
Regards,
Dr.Tushar Tamboli
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