Dear Welcome to HM We understnd your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. I sincerely opine that the way he behaves with you is the normal way. I think you are misunderstanding him and pushing him into trouble. He is a teen ager or young adult. They always wants independent life. They shall not tolerate unnecesssary infiltration. Once they are infiltered, they become irritable. The only way to bring him to the right path is to motivate him patiently and by loving him with heart. Abuse, anger, advice, punishment etc has only negative effects. Now don t try to change him, but change yourself. He shall change himself onseeing you changed. Please describe the whole problem detail and post a direct question to me. I shall definitely help you with psychotherapy techniques to over come obsessive thoughts. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.