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How To Treat Aggression And Disobedience In A Teenager?

my nephew 16 years old gets aggressive if someone tells him to study. 24 hours wants to hold mobile and watch . Doesn't want to study at all.Doesn't have any respect to elders. Argues a lot. Irritates the elders. Please tell me what can I do for him. He doesn't have father and lives with grand parents.
Mon, 26 May 2014
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Welcome to HCM
We understand your concerns

I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. I am really afraid and sorry to appraise you that these teenagers are always like that. let me explain it in detail.

They are physically grown up. They have the looks of an adult. Due to that they also think that they have grown up mentally also. We know that is wrong. But for them, to understand the fact, takes time.

They thinks - "I am grown up, I know what I am doing, I can decide my course of action without any problems of setbacks, I am confident, then... why are these elders are always behind me? Advising me, pushing me.... "

The more we try to advise or guide them, they get more and more irritated. Irritation and the previous thought pattern combines into anger and rage.

The only solution lies in treating them as equal and never advise them. Even if you want to tell them something, take an indirect channel and include his friends in that channel. He shall understand better.

If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this website. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe some psychotherapy techniques which should help you cure your condition further.

Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.
Good luck.
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How To Treat Aggression And Disobedience In A Teenager?

Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. I am really afraid and sorry to appraise you that these teenagers are always like that. let me explain it in detail. They are physically grown up. They have the looks of an adult. Due to that they also think that they have grown up mentally also. We know that is wrong. But for them, to understand the fact, takes time. They thinks - I am grown up, I know what I am doing, I can decide my course of action without any problems of setbacks, I am confident, then... why are these elders are always behind me? Advising me, pushing me.... The more we try to advise or guide them, they get more and more irritated. Irritation and the previous thought pattern combines into anger and rage. The only solution lies in treating them as equal and never advise them. Even if you want to tell them something, take an indirect channel and include his friends in that channel. He shall understand better. If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this website. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe some psychotherapy techniques which should help you cure your condition further. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.