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Insecurity, Unable To Trust And Keep Up Relationship. History Of Disturbed Childhood. Advice

Hi , myself celina age 26, my relation never worked out with anyone and now I am in a situation that I scare to bring a new person in my life I am not able to trust any body and always think that people are doing conspiracy for me , what should I do ? Now recently I deeply and seriously feel in love with a boy but I never got the attention and concern that I should deserve from him and it made me more insecure though our relation was for two years I never had physical relation with him because my past relation was not good , and I always felt that boys just come for sex and they are never serious with any one .
When I was 11 years my mom and dad got separated and I always blamed myself for this I do not know why , and I used to hate the opposite sex , because even in my family my uncle tried to have sex with me , this is the main reason I used to hate boys , now I am in deeply love with this guy but he neither understand my situation neither co operates with me always tries to dominate me I want to come out of this but i feel very insecure due to my experience I cant take it any more , recently after this break up I feel that I am not good enough to handle relationship and also scared to go for any new relation totally lost don`t know what should I do , there is something wrong and I want to correct it please help
Tue, 7 May 2013
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Hello
Welcome to HCM

Bad childhood experience, troubled relationships between parents are causing the disturbances in your behavior and relationships. Your close uncle tried to approach you and this resulted in fear of males. But presently you had relationship with a boy so you have to move on. Childhood trauma results in conflict in mind and it cause severe distress and it can cause serious effects on personal and social life.

I would advise you to please consult a good Psychiatrist for expert opinion and get your Psychotherapy done. Psychotherapy will resolve the unresolved conflict and will improve your condition. Life skill training is also needed. Try to do relaxation exercises and this will increase your confidence.

Hope it solves your query.
Thanks
Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi, MD
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Insecurity, Unable To Trust And Keep Up Relationship. History Of Disturbed Childhood. Advice

Hello Welcome to HCM Bad childhood experience, troubled relationships between parents are causing the disturbances in your behavior and relationships. Your close uncle tried to approach you and this resulted in fear of males. But presently you had relationship with a boy so you have to move on. Childhood trauma results in conflict in mind and it cause severe distress and it can cause serious effects on personal and social life. I would advise you to please consult a good Psychiatrist for expert opinion and get your Psychotherapy done. Psychotherapy will resolve the unresolved conflict and will improve your condition. Life skill training is also needed. Try to do relaxation exercises and this will increase your confidence. Hope it solves your query. Thanks Dr. Seikhoo Bishnoi, MD