Hello Dr., I visited a massage parlor at the hotel I’m staying at in Doha. The lady was Thai; she gave me a massage and then performed a handjob. My concern is that when she did this, she approached from behind with oil on her hands and played with my anus. I looked back, but I’m unsure if she licked my anus or not. It felt strange, and even though I looked back twice, I don’t think she did—perhaps it was just my anxiety playing tricks on me. She also attempted to insert her finger into my anus but stopped when I said no. I m on holiday in a very strict country, Qatar, and I don’t want to confront the lady and risk getting us both in trouble. Please tell me: is licking the anus zero risk? I know handjobs are zero risk, but what about licking the anus or fingering the anus? I have had HIV phobia for years, and I keep searching for advice online, which only heightens my anxiety. I do my best to avoid risky situations and only engage in the safest activities, like handjobs. A few months ago, I visited a clinic for a rapid test, which came back negative. They explained to me that oral sex is zero risk because saliva doesn’t transmit the virus. Is this the same for anus licking? To conclude: 1) From what I know, she didn’t rim me, but my anxiety is suggesting that she may have. Is anus licking zero risk? 2) Does fingering the anus pose a risk, or is that zero risk too? Thank you for your help.