Hi and welcome to HCM
You should wait until any bleeding after the birth (
lochia) has stopped, which should be by about three weeks after your baby's birth. This is because the wound left in your
uterus (womb) by the placenta coming out is still healing. If you have sex before the bleeding has stopped, you may get an infection.
If you are bleeding then sex is not good for you. Its better to wait atleast a month post delivery.
Talk to each other about how you are feeling, and keep the channels of communication open. Your partner might feel rejected if you don't want sex and he does, but you shouldn't feel pressured to have sex again before you are ready. Sex should be a pleasure, not a chore.
Sex doesn't have to mean full penetration. The stimulation of touch alone can be highly pleasurable. Words and cuddles can do much to convey affection and emotion. You will both benefit from this closeness, until you are both ready to have sex again.
Your partner may feel uncertain about having sex after seeing the birth. He may worry that sex will be painful for you, or be unsure about his own feelings. Talk about concerns that either of you have. By sharing the problem, and being honest with each other, you can work through it together.
Regards
Dr Santosh