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Is It Natural To Tell Your Boyfriend That You Don't Want To Have Sex Even Though You Are Really Attracted To Him?

Hi. Is it natural to tell your boyfriend that you don't want to have sex even though you are really attracted to him and think about him when you masterbate? Or we'll not is it natural, but is it a good choice or am I cheating him out of something I don't know that I am physically or mentally ready for?
Wed, 8 Jan 2014
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Greetings !

Well I will say that unless and until you are not prepared to take a step forward as far as establishing a sexual relationship with your boyfriend is concerned you should not go ahead with it despite getting pressure from your boyfriend or your own conscience telling you to do it for the sake of your boyfriend's pleasure and gratification and to keep the relationship intact.

You see as a boyfriend who loves you he should be more supportive and less demanding in this particular situation and shall wait for you until you are ready and in the comfort zone about this decision.

I must mention here that anything done in haste to please and appease others usually falls short of logic and reason and may eventually cause a lot of stress, so until you are ready please do not hesitate to say no to him and hopefully your boyfriend will understand and respect your decision and wait for you to come around and take this step when you are actually ready and not under any influence or pressure.

I hope this makes sense.

Regards
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Is It Natural To Tell Your Boyfriend That You Don't Want To Have Sex Even Though You Are Really Attracted To Him?

Greetings ! Well I will say that unless and until you are not prepared to take a step forward as far as establishing a sexual relationship with your boyfriend is concerned you should not go ahead with it despite getting pressure from your boyfriend or your own conscience telling you to do it for the sake of your boyfriend s pleasure and gratification and to keep the relationship intact. You see as a boyfriend who loves you he should be more supportive and less demanding in this particular situation and shall wait for you until you are ready and in the comfort zone about this decision. I must mention here that anything done in haste to please and appease others usually falls short of logic and reason and may eventually cause a lot of stress, so until you are ready please do not hesitate to say no to him and hopefully your boyfriend will understand and respect your decision and wait for you to come around and take this step when you are actually ready and not under any influence or pressure. I hope this makes sense. Regards