Hi i have been in a relationship with two men in the course of my 23 years of life. One men was a member of my church, an outstanding man, and was nice to the grandparents. but once on a date with him he got all handie and wanted to make out the majority of the time. That surprised me then he started giving his attention to other girls. I am confused why is a church man doing this? this happened last year. because of the way i was treated by him i started texting him church questions to see when was an activity and such. His parents didnt like it after a while and started to complain and my grandmother had to go to his house of the church member guy and tell him that he shouldnt freak out over one kiss. Cause he freaked out when we kissed. And the other lives in dallas and i get to see him every now and then when he has work with his electrician job and anime conventions every two months. He treats me better than the other guy did only he started to call me less when it had to do with wedding stuff and getting to go. It was all fine in the beginning and then the physicalness died down after a while and he only kisses me when we are alone or on the head or hand in public now. What is up? He was going to break up with me once about three months ago but someone outside of the relationship saved it. I love him and care about him only i am confused on where our relationship lies as well as us not being the same religions but having alittle bit of the same beliefs. What should i do ? should i stay with the second guy or move on? i am in love with the second guy and want to be with him long term only i dont know if he wants the same thing? we have been together for 9 months now.