I would think waxing hurts (ouch!) but some women tolerate it just fine. Shaving all or part is in no way unhealthy, just be careful not to cut anything, and use plenty of suds and sharp razors to avoid razor burn. I think what women do varies greatly. European women frequently do nothing (all natural), even to their arm pits -- or so I've heard. Most women keep the hair trimmed at the very least for hygeine purposes. What you choose to do is up to you, or you and your partner. Good luck, be careful with that wax or razor, and hope this helps! : )