Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. First of all you have not mentioned the problem here. Secondly, I could understand that it is very difficult to put all those issues onto words and put here. Therefore, counseling is the basic step with which you couples and the counselor understand each other and build confidence levels. Understanding minds and behavior takes time and therefore counseling also takes time. But it is worth the time. Work with your psychological counselor. Psychiatrists are physicians and healers, but they are never effective counselors. If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe the needed psychotherapy techniques. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.