Hallow Dear,

I have gone through your complaints and will try to make your life happy.

The pain during entry of the penis is by and large due to the contraction of the circular muscle at the opening of vagina. This is most of the time due to apprehension on the part of the girl. Otherwise, the vagina is very distensible who can allow even the head of the baby during delivery. So size of the penis cannot be a cause of the pain. Take deep breaths by mouth while he is inserting, your vaginal muscles will be relaxed and will not cause any pain. Please do not strain. And ask him to enter gently with love.

Usually during earlier intercourses complete entry of the penis is not possible; in some cases it takes year or till the first delivery to allow complete entry of the penis.

Use of lubricants helps in such problem. Please do not use oil based lubricants since they are harmful to the genital organs of woman. Water based lubricants are very good. Vaginal jellies are available in the market and they serve as good lubricant during intercourse. With the use of lubricant, the penile entry would be smooth and painless.

Once the penis has entered the vagina, hold on for some time before making any sexual body movements for you to settle down. Then you can enjoy the sex without any pain.

If you are getting any pain in the abdomen, then it suggests inflammation, mostly due to infection to the internal reproductory organs. It has to be treated by antibiotics and anti-inflammatory medicines. Also please rule out any white discharge from the vagina which also can give rise to pain during insertion and later also. In these cases you will have to report to the Gynaecologist to get treated and cured.

I hope this much ordeal will make you comfortable and will make your sexual life enjoyable.