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Suggest Remedy For Difficulty In Penetration During Intercourse
i tried to have sex this weekend but his penis would not go inside my vagina. this would be the second time i have ever tried to have sex and the penis wont go in. we had foreplay(fingering), so i was wet and he was on hard. i think its my fault because im a virgin and he has experience, so i know he knows what he is doing!! so why wont "it" enter my vagina?? also i like it to be completely dark when it comes around to getting to business, he wanted to see where he was "going" but i feel more comfortable in the dark, how can i be comfortable in the light??
It is usual for women to feel comfortable being in the dark during sex and to a certain extent it is reasoned to be due to shyness or the self image of the woman but there is nothing to worry. I will suggest that instead of complete darkness, let there be some dim light which can be comfortable to both and also prevent yourselves from getting hurt when having sex in complete darkness.
The penis not being able to make a penetration needs to be dealt with patience. It might be that since you are a virgin the first time is difficult. You and your partner must involve in a long foreplay and get your emotions together. This will also cause enough secretions in your vagina. You can also get some lubrication jelly to reduce the friction between the penis and vagina so that penetration is helped.
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Suggest Remedy For Difficulty In Penetration During Intercourse
Hi, It is usual for women to feel comfortable being in the dark during sex and to a certain extent it is reasoned to be due to shyness or the self image of the woman but there is nothing to worry. I will suggest that instead of complete darkness, let there be some dim light which can be comfortable to both and also prevent yourselves from getting hurt when having sex in complete darkness. The penis not being able to make a penetration needs to be dealt with patience. It might be that since you are a virgin the first time is difficult. You and your partner must involve in a long foreplay and get your emotions together. This will also cause enough secretions in your vagina. You can also get some lubrication jelly to reduce the friction between the penis and vagina so that penetration is helped.