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Suggest Remedy To Overcome Past Relations
Name Kanchan Sood
Age: 28years
She recently got married to my brother. BUt on the very first day they started having problems. She mentioned my brother about her previous affair and she was also not interested making any sexual relations with him. He also had told couple of things. 4 day she said she did not want to share the same room and next day she said she cannot live with him. My parents called up her parents and went off with them. Now she is still there for last 7-8 days and also they made her previous boyfriend meet her. He explained her that he is married and have a kid and she shud think bout her family. But till now she is not coming out of situation. My brother and family is still open and waiting for her. but cud not see anything positive from her. On her mothers advice my brother called up her but she is not responding to his call and also she is not talking to any of our family member. Please suggest what we should do.
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Age: 28years
She recently got married to my brother. BUt on the very first day they started having problems. She mentioned my brother about her previous affair and she was also not interested making any sexual relations with him. He also had told couple of things. 4 day she said she did not want to share the same room and next day she said she cannot live with him. My parents called up her parents and went off with them. Now she is still there for last 7-8 days and also they made her previous boyfriend meet her. He explained her that he is married and have a kid and she shud think bout her family. But till now she is not coming out of situation. My brother and family is still open and waiting for her. but cud not see anything positive from her. On her mothers advice my brother called up her but she is not responding to his call and also she is not talking to any of our family member. Please suggest what we should do.
My email id is YYYY@YYYY
Please give me your contact no. so that i can call from USA.
Mon, 18 Aug 2014
Hello, thank you for posting your query.
When your sister in law was not willing, why did she get married in the first place? Did her parents force her into it? Whatever the reason, they need to tell her that this withdrawal she could have shown earlier, by firmly stating that she does not want to get married. And now that she is married she should own up to her responsibility. She's being absolutely unfair to her husband and his family by such an irresponsible behavior. She needs to be told that one understands that getting over a broken relationship takes time to heal. But if she had not moved on, she had no right to spoil the life of her husband n his family as well.She could have simply taken more time before getting married to get over her past. Talk to her parents, why was she forced into getting married! And if she still doesn't understand, then they could seek help of a counselor.
Also are you sure, that's the only reason for her behavior, as you said that your brother also said a few things to her. Before saying anything to her, you should also make sure he hasn't said something demeaning or insensitive to her which may have led to this extreme reaction.
If none of this works, then I am afraid they may not be left with any choice but to part ways.
You can get contact details on our profiles.
All the best.
When your sister in law was not willing, why did she get married in the first place? Did her parents force her into it? Whatever the reason, they need to tell her that this withdrawal she could have shown earlier, by firmly stating that she does not want to get married. And now that she is married she should own up to her responsibility. She's being absolutely unfair to her husband and his family by such an irresponsible behavior. She needs to be told that one understands that getting over a broken relationship takes time to heal. But if she had not moved on, she had no right to spoil the life of her husband n his family as well.She could have simply taken more time before getting married to get over her past. Talk to her parents, why was she forced into getting married! And if she still doesn't understand, then they could seek help of a counselor.
Also are you sure, that's the only reason for her behavior, as you said that your brother also said a few things to her. Before saying anything to her, you should also make sure he hasn't said something demeaning or insensitive to her which may have led to this extreme reaction.
If none of this works, then I am afraid they may not be left with any choice but to part ways.
You can get contact details on our profiles.
All the best.
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better try to talk to her and counsel her. elders of both sides could play a crucial role in the situation. time may solve the problem
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