Hello, I can understand your distress due to your symptoms. You seem to be suffering from Premature Ejaculation due to which you are ejaculating earlier than desired leading to lack of satisfaction in self and partner. I would suggest that you should seek a psychiatric consultation for starting treatment. You would do well with medications and behavior therapy. Medications would include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors like paroxetine (daily) or dapoxetine on as required basis. Behavior therapy sessions would consist of 1-2/week for 6-8 weeks. It would incorporate relaxation training, sex education and learning methods like squeeze technique, start-stop method and distraction. Both medications and behavior therapy together gives better results. It will be more helpful if your wife participates in the behavior therapy sessions. It will lead to better outcome. Hope this information was helpful. Best wishes.