hi.. thanks for writing...i have understood your concerns... the problem u are facing is premature ejaculation..it is not a big problem.. Premature ejaculation can be treated or controlled with the help of behavioral methods and the drugs.. The behavioral techniques u have to practiced during sex and does not expect the benefit from the first day.. it will take time.. your partner can also help u by participating in the behavioral intervention..these techniques are very difficult to explain here in detail…material is easily available on the internet. U can google the names of techniques, I am about to mention. Techniques are: 1. Squeeze technique 2. Start- stop method 3. Interruption technique U can perform these behavioral methods, they are easy to understand.. Premature ejaculation can be controlled by drugs.. SSRI antidepressant drugs cause delayed ejaculation as a side effect, and this side effect is used therapeutically in the treatment of premature ejaculation. So u can take this drugs under the prescription of your treating psychiatrist.. U have to take this drug regularly and its effect will appear only after 15 to 20 days. So be patient for that.. Another strategy is to take drug one hour before sex..the another antidepressant drug dapoxetine is given one hour before sex and it cause delayed ejaculation and sexual pleasure to both.. U shud practice the behavioral techniques first.. I hope u ll find this advice helpful..best luck..