Hi, I can understand your distress regarding ejaculating much earlier than you desire. Premature ejaculation is a condition when a person ejaculates earlier than desired which leads to dissatisfaction in sexual intercourse in either the person or his partner. It is recommended that you seek a psychiatric consultation for starting treatment. In your case, treatment with both medications and behavior therapy would be recommended. Medications would include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors like paroxetine (daily) or dapoxetine on as required basis. Behavior therapy sessions would consist of 1-2/week for 6-8 weeks. It would incorporate relaxation training, sex education and learning methods like squeeze technique, start-stop method and distraction. The outcome will be even more favorable if your wife participates in the behavior therapy sessions. Hope this information was helpful. Best wishes.