Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. Just wait and watch. In the mean time motivate her in every other aspect except these two given issues. About going to school or pursuing PhD. She is taking her time to take a decision. She know how to take it and she shall do it perfectly. Motivate her in other aspects like watching her favorite serial, movie, listening to songs, going to a restaurant, eating outside, playing games, eating food, washing clothes, etc etc, whatever that may be. You can see the differences within a week. Don;t worry. If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this website. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe the needed psychotherapy techniques which should help you cure your condition further. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.