What Causes Bladder Leakage And Swelling In Ankles And Feet?

I am 38. and female... I have a few concerns..I tend to fall asleep at the computer or watching television..just for the past year..I take meds for anxiety and bipolar but that hasnt been the issue before, no recent changes in meds...I also have struggled with a bad habit,of picking at my breasts..started over a year ago just when I had a few small pimples...became a full blown horrible habit,ashamed of it and I have has cellulitis more than 5 times in a year and a half....sometimes one per month..three months in a row...its as if I get an adrenaline rush or mental release from the picking. I know its a a mind thing, and self control,however, I just keep doing it and I may have scars...would like to see a dermatologist,but Im on medicaid in Az. I also have trouble with some mild swelling in ankles and feet as well as hands.I have has many times of waking up with my elbow,forearm and hand asleep..Its very obvious if I fell asleep on my arm,yet it happens more frequently, I do not think its normal... Okay and last thing,I think ..is that I have bladder issues, whether I sneeze,cough,or laugh hard I tend to have leakage, not comfortable..I did have two children but that was 12 to 18 years ago, so not sure if the natural childbirth is related. On top of all this I struggle with being overweight..Im around 230 and I have been at my lowest of 131 before..I take Lamictal,zoloft and Hydroxyzine,for anxiety,bipolar and OCD.....discontinued birth control in last November after 5 years of use. What can I do??should I be overly concerned about any of these issues? Thank you..