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What Causes Lack Of Sexual Feelings Towards Own Wife?
Hi, this is Sameer 34 & my wife is 32 married since 4yr and have a girl baby of 2.5yr old. we both are good looking couple & i love my wife but we do not have a good sexual life. we have sex once a month and i take just 2 to 3 min. I get attracted to other ladies with good figure and dressing sense and urges me to have sex with them but never did it, rather I enjoy daily masturbating with fantasy. Sometimes I masturbat 2 to 3 times continuously and has effected my penis size and stamina now and it does not hold the erect for long time. My wife is good looking but not sexy and does not have the dressing sense. Every time she is in night suit which does not revel the femininity. And I do not get attracted towards her neither even she has any urge towards sex.
My question or doubt is
Being sexy is all that it needs to have a good sexual life
or
my wife needs to change her life style.
or
is that we both need some medical attention
My question or doubt is
Being sexy is all that it needs to have a good sexual life
or
my wife needs to change her life style.
or
is that we both need some medical attention
Fri, 2 Nov 2018
Hello,
Poor sexual life can be due to lack of physical attraction, but inability to communicate with each other plays a bigger role. Try to develop an intimate emotional connection, friendship with each other. Give quality time to each other. You should communicate with your wife about your physical needs and try to help her open up to you. You can visit a marital therapist with your partner.
Both of you need medical attention, you can consult about erectile dysfunction with a doctor or sexologist in the ER. You may need some medications. Make sure that both of you have mutual affection and respect for each other. A poor sexual life often leads to affairs so you are recommended to improve & work out your sexual life with your partner.
Hope I have answered your query.
Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr. Nupur K,
General & Family Physician
Poor sexual life can be due to lack of physical attraction, but inability to communicate with each other plays a bigger role. Try to develop an intimate emotional connection, friendship with each other. Give quality time to each other. You should communicate with your wife about your physical needs and try to help her open up to you. You can visit a marital therapist with your partner.
Both of you need medical attention, you can consult about erectile dysfunction with a doctor or sexologist in the ER. You may need some medications. Make sure that both of you have mutual affection and respect for each other. A poor sexual life often leads to affairs so you are recommended to improve & work out your sexual life with your partner.
Hope I have answered your query.
Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr. Nupur K,
General & Family Physician
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