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What Could Be Wrong With A Wife Who Is A Chronic Blamer, Liar, Lives In Denial, Extremely Defensive, Nerver, Manipulative?

my name is Greg Bernstein and my x-wife has filed for her fifth divorce and has blamed all ex-husband.Bottom line,I didn't want one. I was a fine human being and was a very good husband. Sidney is morbidly inconsiderate of others and her husband of thirteen especialy me because of close quarter living and never showed remorse but would blame me for verbal abuse when I was angry with a just cause. She was a chronic blamer with constant excuses for her behavior, she lied through omisson , lied for no reason, had a mask,or fascasde ,front, act, lived in denial, extremely defensive, even with mild criticism, nerver could hold her self accountable or take responsibility, manipulative in ways that were suttle unforgiving,bring petty little things from a long ago past,remembering things that I repented and redeemed myself of before before I was repentive talk the talk,uncoperative, arrogant, defiant, mocking insolent,Very knowledgeable of Bible Road Less Traveled and never applied any of it. As her husband and a good one, she is absolutely shameless about her 5 divorces and I was nowhere on her priority list. She could be very sweet and angelic to the public and performed excellent as a hopice nurse and was a a workaholic and entirely unavailable . Her Father was a violent Alcoholic that she was terrified of and had an unloving mother. Her Father divorced 5 more times. I have OCD; what is wrong with Sidney? My OCD has been in remission for many years. Thank you Greg
Tue, 17 Dec 2013
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Hi and thank you so much for this query.

I am so sorry to hear about this. It can be so overwhelming to have a wife who potrays all these characteristics. I can only imagine how difficult she is to deal with. Having gone through 5 divorces, there must be something fundamentally wrong with her attitude that needs to be addressed. I cannot think all the 5different men are the problem.

Well, I think she needs some serious counseling. Look for someone that she really respects and identifies with to try and address these issues with her. However, if she has not seen them as being wrong and is totally dismissive of all the claims, then getting it addressed would be very difficult. Unless she sees it as a problem, so would not even entertain any discussion and try to find a solution to this.

The honest truth is that we choose our husbands and wives. If you think you cannot put up with her, then please walk away. There are many different personalities out there. Some blend with ours and others do not. Simply see it that way and continue looking for someone that you would feel more comfortable with. She would also find a man that would be able to fit her profile.


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What Could Be Wrong With A Wife Who Is A Chronic Blamer, Liar, Lives In Denial, Extremely Defensive, Nerver, Manipulative?

Hi and thank you so much for this query. I am so sorry to hear about this. It can be so overwhelming to have a wife who potrays all these characteristics. I can only imagine how difficult she is to deal with. Having gone through 5 divorces, there must be something fundamentally wrong with her attitude that needs to be addressed. I cannot think all the 5different men are the problem. Well, I think she needs some serious counseling. Look for someone that she really respects and identifies with to try and address these issues with her. However, if she has not seen them as being wrong and is totally dismissive of all the claims, then getting it addressed would be very difficult. Unless she sees it as a problem, so would not even entertain any discussion and try to find a solution to this. The honest truth is that we choose our husbands and wives. If you think you cannot put up with her, then please walk away. There are many different personalities out there. Some blend with ours and others do not. Simply see it that way and continue looking for someone that you would feel more comfortable with. She would also find a man that would be able to fit her profile. I hope you find the above information helpful.I wish you we. Thank you so much for using our services and please feel free to ask for more clarifications and information if need be. Thanks. Dr. Ditah, MD.