Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. Valium is not an alternative to other remedies such as relaxation exercises. You are aware that you have anxiety problems. Then you should also know that anxiety is a disorder and not a disease. Diseases are treated with medicines and disorders can be successfully treated with life style changes. You need to practice relaxation and certain life style changes. Life style changes include being busy and learning to prioritize thoughts. You can post a direct question to me in this website. Include every detail as much as you can. I shall prescribe some psychotherapy techniques to control your condition. I am sure that the techniques should be a success. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.