Hello, If you do not have any issues with your husband then there s absolutely no need to get a divorce. Why to get a divorce because of some other person. If you have issues with your husband then its another thing. Getting a divorce will serve her purpose for which she has worked for so many years. You are already a sufferer, why should you be now love- forlorn. Stalkers suffer from personality disorders that leads them to such problematic behaviors. From the information given by you it seems that she is an obsessed stalker. Obsessed stalkers thinks about the person they idolize. Stalking is about obsession. They are psychologically unstable. She may also feel rejected. This type of stalker have a feeling of rejection within them and often keep an eye on their partners. Incompetent stalkers use methods that are harassing or terrifying. They are suitors seeking a partner. These obsessed people may show repeated behaviors with a purpose of trying to deal with obsessive or obtrusive thoughts. They have the inability to stop thinking about a certain topic or image without anxiety. Among the most troubling, however, are sexual obsessions. She needs to be clinically examined by a GP, treatment may involve a combination of medications alongside ongoing psychotherapy. She needs cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or exposure and response prevention (ERP) therapy. You are suggested to give more time to your relationship and love life. Relax, give yourself more time to get out of the harassment and painful experience. Take rest, be cheerful and switch to healthy lifestyle. If needed you can take the help of a Counselor who can help you fix any area of your relationship with your husband that requires to be fixed. If you want to separate due to issues with your husband than also do it on a healthy note. Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further. Regards, Dr. Nupur K., General & Family Physician