I have a step daughter that is 12 years old and for the past 2 years has put me through hell (excuse my french). She does not listen to me ever and she always gives me attitude and I don t know what to do anymore. Punishing her does not work. I have tried taking things from her, I have tried making her write, I have tried making her go to bed early, I have tried not letting her spend the night with people, I have tried having a punishment jar, I have tried having a reward jar for good behavior, I have tried charts, I have tried making her read more, I have tried pretty much everything. I don t know what to do anymore. I am to the point of asking a psychiatrist for a referral to send her to a boot camp or wilderness camp. She has no respect for me. My husband doesn t really do anything but reward her and I have no idea what to do anymore. Please help me