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Whenever my boyfriend fingers me, or I do it to myself, I m unable to orgasm. But if I rub my clitoris I have no trouble having one. I m very confused as to why this is happening. Is there anything I can do to make myself have one while being fingered?
Hello Actually while you are getting aroused, the rate of increase should be steady and increase in later stages to reach orgasm. Self stimulation can exactly guide you about the rate at which arousal should be increased ,which some times is not possible with partner sex. This is accompanied by wandering thoughts ,taking focus away from the pleasure of sex ,thereby reducing level of arousal . You should try and focus on pleasure of sex while having vaginal or clitoral sex. DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA
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Why Am I Unable To Feel Orgasm?
Hello Actually while you are getting aroused, the rate of increase should be steady and increase in later stages to reach orgasm. Self stimulation can exactly guide you about the rate at which arousal should be increased ,which some times is not possible with partner sex. This is accompanied by wandering thoughts ,taking focus away from the pleasure of sex ,thereby reducing level of arousal . You should try and focus on pleasure of sex while having vaginal or clitoral sex. DR SAATIISH JHUNTRRAA