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Can Gonorrhea Be Contracted Through Oral, Anal Or Vaginal Sexual Contact?
Question: My wife was tested for gonorrhea and I have not been with anyone but she doesn't believe me. All I can say is she went in for a PAP smear, and a women's exam and testing and a couple nights later we had sex. The next morning on my penis head I had some small scabes and showed my wife. Later that day she had a lot of discharge and called the doctor and went in and got tested and said she had gonorrhea. I thought I had somet type of infection and took some urinary pills for the local drug store that made the scab go away and then about 4-5 days later it hurt (burning session) when I pee-ed. We went to the clinic and had a shot to get rid of and cure the gonorrhea but my wife still believes I had sex with someone else and wants a divorce yet I never had sexy with anyone else.... how could this happen?
Brief Answer:
A few possible scenarios, but need you both to co-operate
Detailed Answer:
Hello sir and welcome.
Thank you for writing to us.
I have gone through your query with diligence and would like you to know that I am here to help. Based on the given information I would like to put forward a few scenarios:
+How sure are you that your wife was not unfaithful? I mainly say this because, from your query you have not mentioned having any scabs on your penis before having sexual intercourse with your wife.
+Gonorrhea can spread through oral, anal or vaginal sexual contact. So is there any chance you came in contact with someone else's saliva? Or bodily fluids?
+If you can sit your wife down, just request her as a last favour to sit down and think if she could have in any way come in contact with anybody else's saliva, or wore some ones else's clothes, or tried some clothes on at a clothing store, or slept on some one else's pillow or sheets, etc.
Basically any form of contact with any body else? And the same goes to you?
There can be only two options sir, if either of you have come in contact with bodily fluid from anybody else (more likely to be your wife, because your symptoms appeared after sexual contact with her) or that she in fact was unfaithful to you.
Please sit her down, and discuss things. This is important and for the same of your future and your families, try to calm her down and sit her down and discuss things with her. Please also feel free to write back to me for any further clarifications sir, I am only here to help, and wish to provide you with whatever information and possibilities I can think of.
Best wishes.
A few possible scenarios, but need you both to co-operate
Detailed Answer:
Hello sir and welcome.
Thank you for writing to us.
I have gone through your query with diligence and would like you to know that I am here to help. Based on the given information I would like to put forward a few scenarios:
+How sure are you that your wife was not unfaithful? I mainly say this because, from your query you have not mentioned having any scabs on your penis before having sexual intercourse with your wife.
+Gonorrhea can spread through oral, anal or vaginal sexual contact. So is there any chance you came in contact with someone else's saliva? Or bodily fluids?
+If you can sit your wife down, just request her as a last favour to sit down and think if she could have in any way come in contact with anybody else's saliva, or wore some ones else's clothes, or tried some clothes on at a clothing store, or slept on some one else's pillow or sheets, etc.
Basically any form of contact with any body else? And the same goes to you?
There can be only two options sir, if either of you have come in contact with bodily fluid from anybody else (more likely to be your wife, because your symptoms appeared after sexual contact with her) or that she in fact was unfaithful to you.
Please sit her down, and discuss things. This is important and for the same of your future and your families, try to calm her down and sit her down and discuss things with her. Please also feel free to write back to me for any further clarifications sir, I am only here to help, and wish to provide you with whatever information and possibilities I can think of.
Best wishes.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
I'm almost 99.9% sure she has not. I thought you couldn't get it except from sexual acts? And the only other times I was not with her when I was on the road in motel rooms back and forth from Salt Lake City about two weeks prior or when we both went to Las Vegas for work about a week before this. She had her female exam 3-5 days later and we thought maybe when they took a test she might have gotten an infection but the doctor assured us they had a very sterile office. This is very frustrating.
What's even more frustrating is that the doctor reported it to the county and they contacted her and said there were only 8 cases in the entire county within the last year...
What's even more frustrating is that the doctor reported it to the county and they contacted her and said there were only 8 cases in the entire county within the last year...
Brief Answer:
Possible to contract it from the motels, what about your wife's past?
Detailed Answer:
Hi sir.
It is indeed extremely rare, but not impossible. You could have contracted the infection from the motel sheets or other items that could have been recently used (as you might know, motels are not the best at hygiene).
But please also discuss the odds and possibilities of your wife contracting something from any such places or activities. I only wish for both of you to be happy and together.
Please do not hesitate to keep in touch.
Best wishes.
Possible to contract it from the motels, what about your wife's past?
Detailed Answer:
Hi sir.
It is indeed extremely rare, but not impossible. You could have contracted the infection from the motel sheets or other items that could have been recently used (as you might know, motels are not the best at hygiene).
But please also discuss the odds and possibilities of your wife contracting something from any such places or activities. I only wish for both of you to be happy and together.
Please do not hesitate to keep in touch.
Best wishes.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
What do you mean by my wife's past? We've been married 23 years and I am almost positive she has been faithful. The trouble I've played on face book and email in the past and that makes this even worse from her thoughts.
And finally, could the tests be accurate? But then again, while I wasn't tested just treated I did have the symptoms.
And finally, could the tests be accurate? But then again, while I wasn't tested just treated I did have the symptoms.
Brief Answer:
By past I meant any kind of non-sexual exposure as mentioned below
Detailed Answer:
Hello once again sir.
I understand she has been completely faithful to you, but may be I wasn't direct enough when I mentioned "your wife's past", what I really meant was: was there a chance that she tried on some one else's clothes, or visited a motel while travelling, or came in contact with some one's saliva, etc. These acts and others are non-sexual but can still at times result in the transmission of the infection.
I understand how you are in a predicament, but you and only you can speak to her and convince her about the whole thing. If you want, and can convince her to speak to me, I can explain a few scenarios to her as well. As I mentioned sir, I am always here to help.
But you need to let her know that marriage is no joke, and so you both need to work on it together and you need to make a few promises to her and never break them. But you need to talk to her.
Best wishes.
By past I meant any kind of non-sexual exposure as mentioned below
Detailed Answer:
Hello once again sir.
I understand she has been completely faithful to you, but may be I wasn't direct enough when I mentioned "your wife's past", what I really meant was: was there a chance that she tried on some one else's clothes, or visited a motel while travelling, or came in contact with some one's saliva, etc. These acts and others are non-sexual but can still at times result in the transmission of the infection.
I understand how you are in a predicament, but you and only you can speak to her and convince her about the whole thing. If you want, and can convince her to speak to me, I can explain a few scenarios to her as well. As I mentioned sir, I am always here to help.
But you need to let her know that marriage is no joke, and so you both need to work on it together and you need to make a few promises to her and never break them. But you need to talk to her.
Best wishes.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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