Question: Hi, I am a RN. I had non painful intercourse with my previous husband for 22 years. But now I think I have a tight hymenal ring; that is exactly what it feels like. I have not had intercourse for 6 years and now my fiance of 4 years "cannot get in." Our libidio is high and his erection full and hard. I used to have a scalloped hymenal edge or tags but no more. The ring feels so hard and fibrous. I wish a doctor could just clip the ring to open it up. I know I don't have vaginismus. This is not psychological problem but a problem of "the peg is too big for the hole." I have plenty of natural lubrication from foreplay and we use astroglide as well. It is very frustrating. I had 2 c/sections and no vaginal births. My fiance's penis is much larger than that of my previous husband. I am 62 and he is 58 and we are so blessed to have fallen deeply in love. What do you suggest? Because of our age and years of frustration we want a quick solution. Self help for vaginismus seems like a long, tedious program. So please don't advise that. Thanks a lot for listening. from Linda
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thank you for your advice. I think it is good and I will definitely follow it. I was taking bioidentical estrogen and testosterone(as a gel rubbed into inner aspect of arm) and progesterone orally and this seemed to help. but I stopped because of expense to see doctor (did not take my insurance) and the tightness problem seemed to worsen.

What do you think of bioidentical hormone replacement? I also have osteopenia with a t score on head of femur of -1.7 but the spine is OK. do you have anything specific to add for this besides weightbearing and calcium supplementation. what is the best form of Calcium? I have only one risk factor - caucasian and slight frame.

thank you for your help

Sincerely,
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