Question: Hello,
I have questions about my mother who has OCD. I wonder if she also has narcistic personality disorder, or if I'm just reading too much into this. I've read a lot and seen the quiz to determine, but I’m still not sure. There is a lot here to read so I hope you're able to spend a few moments reading through it all! Thanks..

Here's a few things I can say:
- She does seem to have OCD
- She finds it hard to get on with anybody
- She doesn’t work and hasn't - relies on my father’s income
- She has always provided for me with clothes, food etc through my dad as is never stingy towards me
- When things don't go her way she can have RAGEs - something that happened today.
- Empathy doesn’t seem real but fake.
- She doesn’t have much good to say about most people.
- She has fallen out with her mother and sister - down to something that her mom did (it was reasonable that she was annoyed, but maybe with the OCD she keeps bringing it up and they didn't get on). Because her sister and my uncle were always very good to me (I stopped there so much and went on many holidays with them), it makes it hard for me to visit (something I like to do each week and at Christmas). She doesn’t like it but generally accepts that I will do what I want. But today she wanted to know if her mother had asked about her and I wasn't sure which is how this argument began. She seems to pick and not let things rest easily at all, keep bringing things up and not letting it go. "I'll never forgive you for saying that to me".
My uncle (her brother) is also an alcoholic and very ill, he is similar in different ways, but he cant get on with anyone and has an aggressive attitude.
- When younger she was an alcoholic - but became T-total later.
- I was exposed to these rages when younger and witnessed nasty behaviour towards me, my dad and a neighbour.
- The way she talks, she always thinks she is right and everyone else isn't.
- She claims that she isn't perfect, though, even though she acts it at times.
- We do generally get on, but my connections to her family isn't so easy.
- My mother claims she feels as though because she was the youngest that she didn’t get the attention that her bigger sister did.
- Her mom seems to have had an influence on how she is now, and she claims this.
- Her mother has always been kind to me, but I can say she shows some OCD patterns (But is independent and so wouldn’t bother with a diagnosis).

Basically, my brother’s divorced wife kicked up a big fuss on my party when younger, feeling my aunty was giving me a big party and not for her son. It made the day feel really bad and I got really upset in the end after drinking too much alcohol!
To cut a story short: my mom’s mother wanted to go on holidays as she is getting older. She did ask her son and two daughters. But neither wanted to go and my mother said she might think about it. Anyway, my nan announced she was going on holiday with the divorced wife of her son. This got my mother mad and this is how it all got out of hand. I’m not sure how to feel about this, is it reasonable for my nan to have done this? And should my mother had reacted so strongly. It did annoy me quite a bit and her son too. My mother felt as though my nan was in-directly rewarding her not long after she indirectly wrecked my birthday.
So I want to understand if this goes further than just OCD and is flat out narcissism or not. And what about the family issue, which side of the line should I stand there? Back my mom up (which I have to a point), avoid her mother at all costs? – Something I don’t want to do, I’m not that type of person. Also, either way, how best to deal with all of this?

Thanks for your reply. Yes, she is very suspicous about anything and everything. She tried a supplement I gave her and she was then saying things like "I hope you didn't give me extacy". I also feel suspcious at times but not on such a level that my mother does.

What do you think about the family issue, where I want to see those who she dosen't?

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Thanks for reply. Things are calmer at the moment and I will see if there are any property that are appealing over this year or so.

Thanks for your reply. It's out of my hands what she does with phycyatrists and by suggesting it she would probably get mad about that. But when she had gone she switches and changes when they don't say what she wants to hear..
Do you think it is more like paranoid personality disorder?

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Hi,
I don't believe she hears voices or anything like that. They just claim she has OCD. What do you think about this? She has taken blood pressure tablets for over 20 years.

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