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Question: My boyfriend suffers from PTSD. We have been together for only one year and we both were married twice. When we first met we talked about the things that we wanted in our relationship and we also mentioned our issues, mentally speaking. For the past 7 months different stressors have happened to him which trigger his PTSD. He is not the person who I first met. Our early times were the best; we didn't argue, our interest of things in life are the same, and we did not have a dull moment. Now we argue a lot because I feel that my feelings are not being met. I am an teacher who works with children of various disabilities and I am an understandable person. I have my own security issues that I have to deal with. My last marriage was abusive (mentally and twice physical). I am still married but legally separated for three years. I do not know what to do??
Brief Answer:
Consultation of psychiatrist will help
Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXXXXX
Thanks for writing to us. I can understand your concern.
PTSD - post traumatic stress disorder is treatable as well as curable condition with medicines and/or CBT- Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.
If you feel you both love each other and want stable relationship which may convert in marriage in future you both should consult psychiatrist for couple counselling as well as treatment of his PTSD.
You are also in stress due to your current disturbed marital problem and he has PTSD so you both are not in situation to control your irritation in minor matters. Consulting will surely help individually and personally as well as in your relationship.
Also try relaxation techniques, breathing techniques and yoga.
Hope I have answered your query. I will be happy to help further.
Regards,
Dr Chintan Solanki.
Consultation of psychiatrist will help
Detailed Answer:
Hello XXXXXXX
Thanks for writing to us. I can understand your concern.
PTSD - post traumatic stress disorder is treatable as well as curable condition with medicines and/or CBT- Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.
If you feel you both love each other and want stable relationship which may convert in marriage in future you both should consult psychiatrist for couple counselling as well as treatment of his PTSD.
You are also in stress due to your current disturbed marital problem and he has PTSD so you both are not in situation to control your irritation in minor matters. Consulting will surely help individually and personally as well as in your relationship.
Also try relaxation techniques, breathing techniques and yoga.
Hope I have answered your query. I will be happy to help further.
Regards,
Dr Chintan Solanki.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vaishalee Punj
I already knew rhat. But what can i do to undersatnd him without feeling alone or my feelings getting hurt?
Brief Answer:
put your self in stead of his place and think
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for follow up and sorry for delayed response.
You are working with children with various disabilities so you can understand persons with psychological problems.
In any relationship during beginning there are always good feelings. After knowing each other person comes to know about differences and some issues arise. During this period of disturbance how both persons can manage own emotions as well understand other person matter for long term relationship.
Your boyfriend has some issues and due to that his PTSD symptoms reappear. As he is already suffering from some psychological problem his condition is somewhat worse than that of yours. I can understand that you are also disturbed but if you feel that he is really a good guy and you may have good future with him, you should think by putting yourself in his situation and try to co-operate him.
In any case if you feel that because of your own limitations you cannot move forward with him better to explain him in calm manner that 'we cannot move forward as you both cannot help each other due to own limitations and better not to take our relationship ahead'.
If you cannot take decision and remain confused, personal consultation and detail counseling cum supportive psychotherapy will help.
Feel free to discuss further.
put your self in stead of his place and think
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for follow up and sorry for delayed response.
You are working with children with various disabilities so you can understand persons with psychological problems.
In any relationship during beginning there are always good feelings. After knowing each other person comes to know about differences and some issues arise. During this period of disturbance how both persons can manage own emotions as well understand other person matter for long term relationship.
Your boyfriend has some issues and due to that his PTSD symptoms reappear. As he is already suffering from some psychological problem his condition is somewhat worse than that of yours. I can understand that you are also disturbed but if you feel that he is really a good guy and you may have good future with him, you should think by putting yourself in his situation and try to co-operate him.
In any case if you feel that because of your own limitations you cannot move forward with him better to explain him in calm manner that 'we cannot move forward as you both cannot help each other due to own limitations and better not to take our relationship ahead'.
If you cannot take decision and remain confused, personal consultation and detail counseling cum supportive psychotherapy will help.
Feel free to discuss further.
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Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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