Brief Answer:
that can be used bu need more details

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to me.

I read your query and understand the concerns expressed by you.
I remember your last query when you described the same problem but there was no mention of penis becoming softer on trying to do intercourse with your wife.

First of all I like to ask following questions to answer your query.
How long you are married?
How many times in last month you were able to penetrate?
Do you have previous sexual experience?
Do you masturbate?
If yes duration and frequency per week or any problem you encountered
If yes what was the out come of earlier sexual encounters
Are you using any lubrication as suggested by me?
Are you able to insert your finger in vagina?
Do you feel her vagina lubricated while inserting finger or penis?
Do you ejaculate outside before you penetrate?
Is your wife hymen is still intact?


Once you provide above answers I will be able to answer you better.
At this moment I like to assure you that this problem can be corrected and there is no need to worry about it.
Thanks and regards

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Brief Answer:

involuntary contraction of outer third of vagina

Detailed Answer:
Hello,
Thanks for reverting back to me.

From the available description it appears that your wife is suffering with vaginismus a condition in which involuntary contraction of outer third of vagina occurs.

This is common in women who have no experience of sex in past and mostly occurs at young age or in case the person is very afraid of sex.

You need to do the following things with her for correction of this problem
1. While you are in bed talk to her about her knowledge about sex and what she expects from it
2. Ask her about her comfort level with you and does she ready to sex at this time
3. When you are on bed take at least half an hour in kissing, fingering, caressing, licking, sucking- these all are part of foreplay and very essential to have sexual intercourse.
During this time go slowly with fingers- first you can use little finger, than ring finger and than middle finger. After this try with two fingers. You will feel resistance but with time you will feel that tightness is decreasing.

For next one week continue doing it everyday. Do not attempt penile insertion during this time.

4. When you try to insert your finger take her comfort her in consideration. If there is pain stop there itself ask her to guide you. Do not push further till she is comfortable. Do it gently and take care of her feelings.

5. I am reminding you again that no penis insertion for next one week. Report me after one or two successful session as advised by me.

I am sure this will ease your problem. In case you find any difficulty let me know. I will be glad to assist you.
Thanks and regards

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