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Question: Our mother is 94 living at home with dementia. My sister next door is her caregiver for over 15 years.
Mom is stubborn and resisting every thing from bring in house cleaner to home care witch is needed now because my sister is experencing healthcare issues of her own & overly co-codepent in care for mon.
She is 64 and I am 67, finding it difficult to help wth her full time needs. Any suggestions\info would be appreciated. thank you, XXXX
Mom is stubborn and resisting every thing from bring in house cleaner to home care witch is needed now because my sister is experencing healthcare issues of her own & overly co-codepent in care for mon.
She is 64 and I am 67, finding it difficult to help wth her full time needs. Any suggestions\info would be appreciated. thank you, XXXX
Brief Answer:
Have you ever considered a nursing home for your mother?
Detailed Answer:
Hi and thank you so much for this query.
I am so sorry to hear about the dementia your mom has. I understand how difficult it is to care for a demented person and I must commend your efforts in having done so for the past 15years. Truth is that she should not be held accountable for most of her acts as she is not very conscious about them. To me, bringing in someone after this long is a must. Though she doesn’t want this, I will say bring in someone. Let her help with most of the chores not directly related to her. All other direct activities linked to her like feeding and bathing can be done by you both. Cleaning the house, watching linen, watching over her, etc. can be done by this new person without necessarily inconveniencing her. If this is totally impossible, the last option is that we go ahead and consider a nursing home? If you don’t appreciate having her in a nursing home ever, then let’s go on and try to execute the above plan.
I hope this helps. I wish you well. Feel free to ask for more information and clarifications if need be. Above all, thanks for using our services.
Have you ever considered a nursing home for your mother?
Detailed Answer:
Hi and thank you so much for this query.
I am so sorry to hear about the dementia your mom has. I understand how difficult it is to care for a demented person and I must commend your efforts in having done so for the past 15years. Truth is that she should not be held accountable for most of her acts as she is not very conscious about them. To me, bringing in someone after this long is a must. Though she doesn’t want this, I will say bring in someone. Let her help with most of the chores not directly related to her. All other direct activities linked to her like feeding and bathing can be done by you both. Cleaning the house, watching linen, watching over her, etc. can be done by this new person without necessarily inconveniencing her. If this is totally impossible, the last option is that we go ahead and consider a nursing home? If you don’t appreciate having her in a nursing home ever, then let’s go on and try to execute the above plan.
I hope this helps. I wish you well. Feel free to ask for more information and clarifications if need be. Above all, thanks for using our services.
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