Sign-in to Ask A Doctor - 24x7
OR
Sign in with Google
What Is The Cause And Treatment For Erectile Dysfunction?
Question: Hi Doctor,
My name is XXXX, I am weighing 86 Kgs and 5’8 height.I am suffering from erection problem. It has become a continues story since last 20 days. In between i had a sex continuously a week and now i am unable to erect and sometimes if I erect i am unable to hold the erection. this has become a matter of worry and i am going through sleepless nights. I continued to have a sex with my wife since last 6 months and was enjoying every moment of the act. I was consuming cigarette before (6to7 cigaretter a day) and alcohol twice in a week. After this problem i stopped consuming cigarette completely and alcohol i had taken twice in these 20 days period. I was masturbating before my marriage for 5 to 6 times in a week. I contacted local doctor and he advised me to take Antoxid tablet once in a day after breakfast. He told I will be normal after 10 days. I am worried a very much as this problem is not supposed to be happened to me at this age(27Years). Whenever I go to have a sex with my wife this problem occurs in my mind and I lose my control immediately and I will be in an upset mood. My wife isn’t happy with my behavior presently.
I don’t know whether its a problem of physical or psychological. Please do find a proper treatment for this and help me out to come out of this issue.
My name is XXXX, I am weighing 86 Kgs and 5’8 height.I am suffering from erection problem. It has become a continues story since last 20 days. In between i had a sex continuously a week and now i am unable to erect and sometimes if I erect i am unable to hold the erection. this has become a matter of worry and i am going through sleepless nights. I continued to have a sex with my wife since last 6 months and was enjoying every moment of the act. I was consuming cigarette before (6to7 cigaretter a day) and alcohol twice in a week. After this problem i stopped consuming cigarette completely and alcohol i had taken twice in these 20 days period. I was masturbating before my marriage for 5 to 6 times in a week. I contacted local doctor and he advised me to take Antoxid tablet once in a day after breakfast. He told I will be normal after 10 days. I am worried a very much as this problem is not supposed to be happened to me at this age(27Years). Whenever I go to have a sex with my wife this problem occurs in my mind and I lose my control immediately and I will be in an upset mood. My wife isn’t happy with my behavior presently.
I don’t know whether its a problem of physical or psychological. Please do find a proper treatment for this and help me out to come out of this issue.
Brief Answer:
Psychological approach is necessary.
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
I went through your problem description.
Erectile dysfunction is a problem faced by so many peole and 90 percent such problems are due to psychological reasons. From the given description, I don't see a reason for your erectile dysfunction physiologically. You did visit your doctor and hopefully he cleared your doubts.
In my opinion, it seems to be psychological in nature. You don't have to worry about past masturbation habits. Even if you had a habit of masturbation twice daily, it cannot harm your sexual life. Chronic Alcoholism cn affect your erection but you are not an alcoholic. Continuous smoking addiction can prove fatal, but your case is negative in that aspect. You did have pleasurable intimate sexual relationship with your wife. That rules out previously contracted erectile dysfuntion.
Therefore, in all possibility it is psychological. May be obsessive.
Let me explain. You had contunuous sex with your wife for 20 days. You also work for a living. You are 27. You had these twenty days sex without taking your sexual mental health and physical health into consideration. Stress at work and continuous sexual activitiy hindered your further approach. Your body warned you against this and it gave you momentry erectile dysfunction. That was to safeguard the body. You got panic. You became anxious and started doubting your sexual efficiency. Then tried sex second time without taking proper rest. Stress remained and anxiety was already triggered, predictably you failed again. Now you got more concerned and the cycle continued. Then came obsession. You started thinking negatively about the whole episodes and only these thinkings occupied your mind. Obsession worsened the psychological symptoms.
All the while you were anxious, restless, stressed and obsessive, and you were trying to get erection and have sex with your wife. Can you tell me how can you do it? That is natural you failed every time. The more you failed the more you become anxious and obsessive and the more you are stressed. Please understand, at this stage, you cannot have erection. And this is purely psychological.
Talk to your wife. Appraise her of the situation. She will understand you. Then take rest. Do not indulge in sexual activity for one full week. Take your wife to movies, parks, friends houses etc. Every time admire her beauty but be determined not to have sex for a week.
Throughout this rest period, do not have obsession. Whenever negative thoughts come, counter it by saying "I know there is nothing wrong, I will have sex next sunday when I am fully physically and mentally fit". Wait, don't jump. Compulsorily Wait till 01 of Feb 2015.
This is the best method initially. I am sure, you will succeed on First February. Please do not even try before that. Just be positive.
God bless you.
Dr. KV Anand PhD
Psychological approach is necessary.
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
I went through your problem description.
Erectile dysfunction is a problem faced by so many peole and 90 percent such problems are due to psychological reasons. From the given description, I don't see a reason for your erectile dysfunction physiologically. You did visit your doctor and hopefully he cleared your doubts.
In my opinion, it seems to be psychological in nature. You don't have to worry about past masturbation habits. Even if you had a habit of masturbation twice daily, it cannot harm your sexual life. Chronic Alcoholism cn affect your erection but you are not an alcoholic. Continuous smoking addiction can prove fatal, but your case is negative in that aspect. You did have pleasurable intimate sexual relationship with your wife. That rules out previously contracted erectile dysfuntion.
Therefore, in all possibility it is psychological. May be obsessive.
Let me explain. You had contunuous sex with your wife for 20 days. You also work for a living. You are 27. You had these twenty days sex without taking your sexual mental health and physical health into consideration. Stress at work and continuous sexual activitiy hindered your further approach. Your body warned you against this and it gave you momentry erectile dysfunction. That was to safeguard the body. You got panic. You became anxious and started doubting your sexual efficiency. Then tried sex second time without taking proper rest. Stress remained and anxiety was already triggered, predictably you failed again. Now you got more concerned and the cycle continued. Then came obsession. You started thinking negatively about the whole episodes and only these thinkings occupied your mind. Obsession worsened the psychological symptoms.
All the while you were anxious, restless, stressed and obsessive, and you were trying to get erection and have sex with your wife. Can you tell me how can you do it? That is natural you failed every time. The more you failed the more you become anxious and obsessive and the more you are stressed. Please understand, at this stage, you cannot have erection. And this is purely psychological.
Talk to your wife. Appraise her of the situation. She will understand you. Then take rest. Do not indulge in sexual activity for one full week. Take your wife to movies, parks, friends houses etc. Every time admire her beauty but be determined not to have sex for a week.
Throughout this rest period, do not have obsession. Whenever negative thoughts come, counter it by saying "I know there is nothing wrong, I will have sex next sunday when I am fully physically and mentally fit". Wait, don't jump. Compulsorily Wait till 01 of Feb 2015.
This is the best method initially. I am sure, you will succeed on First February. Please do not even try before that. Just be positive.
God bless you.
Dr. KV Anand PhD
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Dear Doctor,
Thanks a lot for the positive reply. It really helped me to come out from mental stress. After reading your reply i went to have foreplay with my wife yesterday night and i am succeeded in erection (not that much hard as before). As u suggested i did not have intercourse yesterday. i will wait till 01st feb and then i will proceed. You really removed my mental stress. Secondly as I mentioned my local doctor suggested me to take a tablet of Antoxid, will it be useful? should i continue till 01st Feb?
Would like to quote few more queries. I am planning to have a baby now. I hope so the present problem will not affect me in any ways. Pls do suggest something on this. And pls also suggest what I need to do to increase blood vessels. Any diet kind of thing needs to follow and any particular food I need to consume to increase blood vessels. I am a vegeterian.
Your reply is most awaited.
Thanks and regards,
XXXX
Thanks a lot for the positive reply. It really helped me to come out from mental stress. After reading your reply i went to have foreplay with my wife yesterday night and i am succeeded in erection (not that much hard as before). As u suggested i did not have intercourse yesterday. i will wait till 01st feb and then i will proceed. You really removed my mental stress. Secondly as I mentioned my local doctor suggested me to take a tablet of Antoxid, will it be useful? should i continue till 01st Feb?
Would like to quote few more queries. I am planning to have a baby now. I hope so the present problem will not affect me in any ways. Pls do suggest something on this. And pls also suggest what I need to do to increase blood vessels. Any diet kind of thing needs to follow and any particular food I need to consume to increase blood vessels. I am a vegeterian.
Your reply is most awaited.
Thanks and regards,
XXXX
Brief Answer:
Passion and love helps you success in sex.
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
I am glad that you are relieved.
The most important thing to remember is 'sex is divine and is to be done passionately'. Make sure to enjoy every act during sex. Please wait till 1st Feb. Please indulge in sex only when you and your wife are physically and mentally fit, means not at all stressed or troubled.
You don't need to take the medicine. If you feel releived by that medicine, go ahead, have it upto 1st Feb.
Proper exercise and life style makes you healthy. Health is not concerned about the health of your blood vessels only, in is whole health. Don't worry about sexual strength. You have it and you will continue to have it. Anxiety may decrease your ability momentarily. But that is temporary.
For your information, Milk, Cashew nuts, Kesar, Badam, Drum Stick, Palak are known to increase sexual strength. But, Now you don't have to use these.
Enjoy life, be passionate and loving with your wife. Your life will be heaven.
God bless you.
Dr. KV Anand PhD
Passion and love helps you success in sex.
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
I am glad that you are relieved.
The most important thing to remember is 'sex is divine and is to be done passionately'. Make sure to enjoy every act during sex. Please wait till 1st Feb. Please indulge in sex only when you and your wife are physically and mentally fit, means not at all stressed or troubled.
You don't need to take the medicine. If you feel releived by that medicine, go ahead, have it upto 1st Feb.
Proper exercise and life style makes you healthy. Health is not concerned about the health of your blood vessels only, in is whole health. Don't worry about sexual strength. You have it and you will continue to have it. Anxiety may decrease your ability momentarily. But that is temporary.
For your information, Milk, Cashew nuts, Kesar, Badam, Drum Stick, Palak are known to increase sexual strength. But, Now you don't have to use these.
Enjoy life, be passionate and loving with your wife. Your life will be heaven.
God bless you.
Dr. KV Anand PhD
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Dear Sir,
Thanks for your reply, but some of my questions remains unanswered. Please let me be informed about this too. I asked you a query related to baby, I hope my current problem may not harm my baby need. If yes/no please advice what all the necessary steps that i have to take. Your suggestion would be highly relaxable.
Is there any side effects using this table (Antoxid). I started using this table since last 3 days but i am not feeling anything unusual. You pls guide me is there any possibilities of side effects with this tablet. I will close this discussion soon after finding an answer.
To rate the discussion it is really relaxable and stress relieving. Thanks for the proper suggestion.
regards,
XXXX
Thanks for your reply, but some of my questions remains unanswered. Please let me be informed about this too. I asked you a query related to baby, I hope my current problem may not harm my baby need. If yes/no please advice what all the necessary steps that i have to take. Your suggestion would be highly relaxable.
Is there any side effects using this table (Antoxid). I started using this table since last 3 days but i am not feeling anything unusual. You pls guide me is there any possibilities of side effects with this tablet. I will close this discussion soon after finding an answer.
To rate the discussion it is really relaxable and stress relieving. Thanks for the proper suggestion.
regards,
XXXX
Brief Answer:
You should have a baby soon
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for the follow up
Antoxid is a combination drug and it contents Beta Carotene, Copper, Manganese, Selenium, Zinc Sulphate, Prescribed to improve vitality and prevent general anxiety and diseases. It is a multimineral drug. You can have it as prescribed and there are no known side effects.
Regarding the query about baby - you do not have any erectile dysfunction or impotency or any other problems or diseases which can prevent you from having a baby. Therefore don't worry about it. Go ahead. You should have a baby when the time comes.
Be happy.
God bless you.
You should have a baby soon
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for the follow up
Antoxid is a combination drug and it contents Beta Carotene, Copper, Manganese, Selenium, Zinc Sulphate, Prescribed to improve vitality and prevent general anxiety and diseases. It is a multimineral drug. You can have it as prescribed and there are no known side effects.
Regarding the query about baby - you do not have any erectile dysfunction or impotency or any other problems or diseases which can prevent you from having a baby. Therefore don't worry about it. Go ahead. You should have a baby when the time comes.
Be happy.
God bless you.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Dear Doctor,
Thanks for the instant reply, I might be asking little more questions as I am worried on this matter a more. Please do not mind.
I started making an exercise everyday and jogging to be fit myself. Before marriage i was weighing 74 Kgs and my present weight is 86 Kgs. This may be the reason for cause. I started making a heavy workout everyday. Tell me something about this.
Let me ask you a very personal question, when i leave a sperm inside my wife vagina some of the portion comes out (sometimes fully). Is this the normal happening or only in case of few which includes me in that. Please clarify my doubt.
with this i finish off my discussion. Thanks for the detailed information which is really useful.
regards,
XXXX
Thanks for the instant reply, I might be asking little more questions as I am worried on this matter a more. Please do not mind.
I started making an exercise everyday and jogging to be fit myself. Before marriage i was weighing 74 Kgs and my present weight is 86 Kgs. This may be the reason for cause. I started making a heavy workout everyday. Tell me something about this.
Let me ask you a very personal question, when i leave a sperm inside my wife vagina some of the portion comes out (sometimes fully). Is this the normal happening or only in case of few which includes me in that. Please clarify my doubt.
with this i finish off my discussion. Thanks for the detailed information which is really useful.
regards,
XXXX
Brief Answer:
Exercise is good for your health.
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for the follow up
Exercise is always good for your health. If you workout heavily you should have nutritious diet with bananas, fruits and milk. Also make sure you don't indulge in sex when you are heavily tired due to these exercises. Half an hour jogging and half an hour aerobic exercises are enough for you to maintain your weight. Do not over do.
Spilling of sperm from within the vagina is very much normal. If it don't come out immedietely after sex, women usually wash their area and then it comes out. If women do not wash it after sex, the semen will leak out while they sleep. All these are normal and don't worry.
Please do follow up after 1st of Feb. I am sure you will be a success.
God bless you.
Dr KV Anand
Exercise is good for your health.
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for the follow up
Exercise is always good for your health. If you workout heavily you should have nutritious diet with bananas, fruits and milk. Also make sure you don't indulge in sex when you are heavily tired due to these exercises. Half an hour jogging and half an hour aerobic exercises are enough for you to maintain your weight. Do not over do.
Spilling of sperm from within the vagina is very much normal. If it don't come out immedietely after sex, women usually wash their area and then it comes out. If women do not wash it after sex, the semen will leak out while they sleep. All these are normal and don't worry.
Please do follow up after 1st of Feb. I am sure you will be a success.
God bless you.
Dr KV Anand
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Ashwin Bhandari
Dear Doctor,
I have followed your steps. I waited to have an intercourse till yesterday and i succeeded in that.
During this period i had visited local psychiatrist and he advised me that i am facing ED pshychological. He has advised me some treatment like XXXXXXX sex therapy and cognitto restructuring. He advised me to be away from intercourse till the course completes. COurse is beginned since one week. But i went to have a sex yesterday and my penis was hard as before and had a sex for more than 5 mins. i didnt lose my erection in this 5 mins. Now i would like to know the previous problem will occur again anytime, do i need to continue treatment with my local psychiatric (he charges me Rs. 300/- for one visit) or you advise me that i am fine like before and i can go ahead in having sex.
During these many days i was trying to erect and maximum times i succeeded. SOme times whenever stress comes in between i lost my erection very easily. But otheriwise my erection was there.
But i am still having some stress in mind, I am worried that whether yesterday's intercourse for yesteryday only or it keeps on everytime. In between i did not use any sex tablets
I have followed your steps. I waited to have an intercourse till yesterday and i succeeded in that.
During this period i had visited local psychiatrist and he advised me that i am facing ED pshychological. He has advised me some treatment like XXXXXXX sex therapy and cognitto restructuring. He advised me to be away from intercourse till the course completes. COurse is beginned since one week. But i went to have a sex yesterday and my penis was hard as before and had a sex for more than 5 mins. i didnt lose my erection in this 5 mins. Now i would like to know the previous problem will occur again anytime, do i need to continue treatment with my local psychiatric (he charges me Rs. 300/- for one visit) or you advise me that i am fine like before and i can go ahead in having sex.
During these many days i was trying to erect and maximum times i succeeded. SOme times whenever stress comes in between i lost my erection very easily. But otheriwise my erection was there.
But i am still having some stress in mind, I am worried that whether yesterday's intercourse for yesteryday only or it keeps on everytime. In between i did not use any sex tablets
Brief Answer:
Perfect. You are doing well. Continue therapy
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for the follow up.
Great to hear your progress. I am feeling elated in your achievement.
You are under a therapy for psychological erectile dysfunction from a psychiatrist. I am sure that his therapy is perfect and you can see the result in your sexual inter course and mood. Therefore I suggest you to continue the course of therapy and feel fully confident. If you discontinue the therapy midway, there is a possibility that you become anxious that you discontinued.
Secondly, becoming apprehensive is of no good. In your case, even after all this therapy, there is no chance of ED happening psychologically again. There is a but, ... Because it is psychological, it may happen again when you invite it, when you are anxious and apprehensive about it. But youhave nothing to worry, because you know the therapy now and you can do it yourself.
Therefore, Please do not be apprehensive. Your problem will soon be OVER. Keep it in mind, never try to have sex when you are stressed or tired (don't force it against your mind's / body's will).
Thank god for the experience you had and thank for the lessons you learnt.
God bless you.
Perfect. You are doing well. Continue therapy
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
Thanks for the follow up.
Great to hear your progress. I am feeling elated in your achievement.
You are under a therapy for psychological erectile dysfunction from a psychiatrist. I am sure that his therapy is perfect and you can see the result in your sexual inter course and mood. Therefore I suggest you to continue the course of therapy and feel fully confident. If you discontinue the therapy midway, there is a possibility that you become anxious that you discontinued.
Secondly, becoming apprehensive is of no good. In your case, even after all this therapy, there is no chance of ED happening psychologically again. There is a but, ... Because it is psychological, it may happen again when you invite it, when you are anxious and apprehensive about it. But youhave nothing to worry, because you know the therapy now and you can do it yourself.
Therefore, Please do not be apprehensive. Your problem will soon be OVER. Keep it in mind, never try to have sex when you are stressed or tired (don't force it against your mind's / body's will).
Thank god for the experience you had and thank for the lessons you learnt.
God bless you.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Vaishalee Punj
Dear Sir,
Thanks for the strong words. To be XXXXXXX whenver i see your reply it boost my energy. May be this is one of the reason why I am back to my normal.
I have few doubts, please clarify. I understood in case if such issues repeats in future i need to be out sexual activities for some time. Once I am fit mentally and physically then i can proceed further. I am continuing therapy too at the same point of time. Can you please suggest me how can I improve sperm count? as i told you before i am planning to have a baby now so i wanted to know something about this too.
Also tell me my wife is in her hometown and she will be coming to me after 3 or 4 days. Is that will be safe if i can have a masturbation till that time.
Please advice on above points.
Regards,
XXXX
Thanks for the strong words. To be XXXXXXX whenver i see your reply it boost my energy. May be this is one of the reason why I am back to my normal.
I have few doubts, please clarify. I understood in case if such issues repeats in future i need to be out sexual activities for some time. Once I am fit mentally and physically then i can proceed further. I am continuing therapy too at the same point of time. Can you please suggest me how can I improve sperm count? as i told you before i am planning to have a baby now so i wanted to know something about this too.
Also tell me my wife is in her hometown and she will be coming to me after 3 or 4 days. Is that will be safe if i can have a masturbation till that time.
Please advice on above points.
Regards,
XXXX
Brief Answer:
Please be engaged with entertaining activities
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
You had a stressful situation and you were anxious about sex and allied activities. Fine. That was past and there is no surety that such a thing will happen again in the future. If you worry so, that is negative thinking and is called generalizing. Please understand that nobody can confirm to you that such an anxiety will not occur in the future. Therefore, you have to focus your thoughts as negative. Now you have experience how to deal with it. In future such an anxiety may or may not occur. If it occurs you have the defense and if it not, you will be happy. Therefore learn to live in the present and be optimistic about future.
Reduction in stress and anxiety, being calm in itself will increase your sperm count. Therefore stop worrying about sperm count. It will be alright. Exercise, diet rich in ZINC like beans, nuts, whole grains, fortified breakfast cereals, and dairy products, can also increase your sperm count.
Moderate Masturbation is always a safe practice. Body produce sperm cells whenever you are sexually aroused and is stored in your testes. It is a waste product and body will somehow throw it out. Masturbation is a natural process to expel that sperm. If you do not masturbate, body finds its own ways like nocturnal emission, droplets of sperm through urine etc. Therefore, you don;t have to worry about these.
I still suggest, your larger problem is your obsession and negative thinking. You need to learn to be optimistic and think positively. Keep yourself engaged with something always. Thereby you can reduce your negative thinking. Entertainment, comedy programs, good movies, engaging games, engaging hobbies etc can help you be engaged.
God bless you.
Please be engaged with entertaining activities
Detailed Answer:
Dear XXXXXXX
You had a stressful situation and you were anxious about sex and allied activities. Fine. That was past and there is no surety that such a thing will happen again in the future. If you worry so, that is negative thinking and is called generalizing. Please understand that nobody can confirm to you that such an anxiety will not occur in the future. Therefore, you have to focus your thoughts as negative. Now you have experience how to deal with it. In future such an anxiety may or may not occur. If it occurs you have the defense and if it not, you will be happy. Therefore learn to live in the present and be optimistic about future.
Reduction in stress and anxiety, being calm in itself will increase your sperm count. Therefore stop worrying about sperm count. It will be alright. Exercise, diet rich in ZINC like beans, nuts, whole grains, fortified breakfast cereals, and dairy products, can also increase your sperm count.
Moderate Masturbation is always a safe practice. Body produce sperm cells whenever you are sexually aroused and is stored in your testes. It is a waste product and body will somehow throw it out. Masturbation is a natural process to expel that sperm. If you do not masturbate, body finds its own ways like nocturnal emission, droplets of sperm through urine etc. Therefore, you don;t have to worry about these.
I still suggest, your larger problem is your obsession and negative thinking. You need to learn to be optimistic and think positively. Keep yourself engaged with something always. Thereby you can reduce your negative thinking. Entertainment, comedy programs, good movies, engaging games, engaging hobbies etc can help you be engaged.
God bless you.
Note: For more detailed guidance, please consult an Internal Medicine Specialist, with your latest reports. Click here..
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Ashwin Bhandari
Answered by
Get personalised answers from verified doctor in minutes across 80+ specialties
