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Would Abortion Ruin The Chances Of Future Pregnancies?
Question: Hello, I'm 34 and I am 10 weeks pregnant. The father could be two different men. I have already had two abortions when I was 18 and 21, and also a miscarriage at 20.
What would be the risk and dangers of having an abortion this late in life?
I want children desperately so I would hate to think if I decided to abort that I could risk not having children in the next few years.
Both men don't want me to have this baby. I know that being a single mum would be hard.
Any advise would be appreciated.
Thank you
What would be the risk and dangers of having an abortion this late in life?
I want children desperately so I would hate to think if I decided to abort that I could risk not having children in the next few years.
Both men don't want me to have this baby. I know that being a single mum would be hard.
Any advise would be appreciated.
Thank you
Brief Answer:
Chance of successful pregnancies can decline.
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for trusting us with your health concern.
I can understand your difficulty, but, first, let me know if you are sure you can stay calm if you abort this baby. You have to decide whether to retain this pregnancy or not. I know that it is a little difficult being a single parent, but not impossible.
Coming to the medical facts, you can go for a surgical abortion in expert hands and if there are no associated medical problems, the process is safe. As you are in thirties, you still have sufficient time left for conception, but, please remember, not so much as in your twenties.
Also, with repeated abortions, uterine irritability increases and retention of a pregnancy to term may become difficult. You should practice regular effective contraception instead of getting aborted frequently.
Hope I have clarified your query. Please feel free to contact for further help. I will be glad to do so.
regards,
Shanti.V.
Chance of successful pregnancies can decline.
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for trusting us with your health concern.
I can understand your difficulty, but, first, let me know if you are sure you can stay calm if you abort this baby. You have to decide whether to retain this pregnancy or not. I know that it is a little difficult being a single parent, but not impossible.
Coming to the medical facts, you can go for a surgical abortion in expert hands and if there are no associated medical problems, the process is safe. As you are in thirties, you still have sufficient time left for conception, but, please remember, not so much as in your twenties.
Also, with repeated abortions, uterine irritability increases and retention of a pregnancy to term may become difficult. You should practice regular effective contraception instead of getting aborted frequently.
Hope I have clarified your query. Please feel free to contact for further help. I will be glad to do so.
regards,
Shanti.V.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Thank you for responding.
I don't think I could live with myself if I was to abort this baby. It was hard enough for me when I was younger and it took me a great deal of time to come to terms with what I did. I constantly look at friends and family who had children around that time and I get sad and feel guilty that I did such a thing. My emotional state would not be healthy if I decided for this option
I have always been on contraception so I have to admit it was a shock to find out that I was pregnant when I was younger and also now. I have always practiced safe sex.
I am a strong women and believe I could take care of this baby with out any assistance from the father. I'm just disappointed that he does not want to be in it's life.
I am glad you have advised that there are concerns for a repeat abortion. That is exactly what I wanted to hear. I knew there could be complications if I had the procedure preformed again. Trying to explain this to the two men concerned was very hard to do as I did not have any evidence that this could be a risk. I will pass this on to them and advise that this procedure wouldn't be the best option for me.
You have been a great help, in helping me come to a decision which is not to terminate my unborn child.
Thank you XXXXXXX
I don't think I could live with myself if I was to abort this baby. It was hard enough for me when I was younger and it took me a great deal of time to come to terms with what I did. I constantly look at friends and family who had children around that time and I get sad and feel guilty that I did such a thing. My emotional state would not be healthy if I decided for this option
I have always been on contraception so I have to admit it was a shock to find out that I was pregnant when I was younger and also now. I have always practiced safe sex.
I am a strong women and believe I could take care of this baby with out any assistance from the father. I'm just disappointed that he does not want to be in it's life.
I am glad you have advised that there are concerns for a repeat abortion. That is exactly what I wanted to hear. I knew there could be complications if I had the procedure preformed again. Trying to explain this to the two men concerned was very hard to do as I did not have any evidence that this could be a risk. I will pass this on to them and advise that this procedure wouldn't be the best option for me.
You have been a great help, in helping me come to a decision which is not to terminate my unborn child.
Thank you XXXXXXX
Brief Answer:
Glad to know your decision.
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for writing back.
I am glad to know you have decided in favor of the baby. We all face difficult situations in life and each individual perspective determines the outcome. You have to take mature decisions as age advances and this is exactly what you have done. I congratulate you for that.
Safe sex is a method ridden with more chances of failure; better method is to for the insertion of an IUD or hormone implant if you do not wish daily medication.
Even if the father does not want to inherit the child, let him be because he must be a weakling not to accept responsibility. Raise the child with dignity.
Best wishes and god bless you.
regards,
Shanti.V.
Glad to know your decision.
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for writing back.
I am glad to know you have decided in favor of the baby. We all face difficult situations in life and each individual perspective determines the outcome. You have to take mature decisions as age advances and this is exactly what you have done. I congratulate you for that.
Safe sex is a method ridden with more chances of failure; better method is to for the insertion of an IUD or hormone implant if you do not wish daily medication.
Even if the father does not want to inherit the child, let him be because he must be a weakling not to accept responsibility. Raise the child with dignity.
Best wishes and god bless you.
regards,
Shanti.V.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
Awe thank you for your kind words :) I feel so much better about my decision now.
I too believe the father (Both men included depending on which one it is) are both gutless men for not wanting to take responsibility. It take two to tango and I never did this intentionally. They must know that there are always risks associated with unprotected sex.
I am going to love my baby with all my heart and lucky for me I have a wonderful family including my parents, that are fully supportive of my decision and amazing friends that will always be willing to help me if I need it.
Thank you once again! Its the first time I have felt excited about finally having a baby!! One very happy lady right now :)
Kind Regards XXXXXXX
I too believe the father (Both men included depending on which one it is) are both gutless men for not wanting to take responsibility. It take two to tango and I never did this intentionally. They must know that there are always risks associated with unprotected sex.
I am going to love my baby with all my heart and lucky for me I have a wonderful family including my parents, that are fully supportive of my decision and amazing friends that will always be willing to help me if I need it.
Thank you once again! Its the first time I have felt excited about finally having a baby!! One very happy lady right now :)
Kind Regards XXXXXXX
Brief Answer:
Welcome your decision.
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for writing back.
It feels so nice to read your response. I welcome your decision wholeheartedly. I am sure you are going to bring up your child in an amazing way. Please remember, your child will always be proud of you. Nothing is greater in this world than being a mother. Please take care of your health, get regular check ups and relax.
You can contact me whenever you want on this forum. You can post me a direct query if you wish to do so. I will be glad to help you.
Wish you good health.
regards,
Shanti.V.
Welcome your decision.
Detailed Answer:
Hi,
Thanks for writing back.
It feels so nice to read your response. I welcome your decision wholeheartedly. I am sure you are going to bring up your child in an amazing way. Please remember, your child will always be proud of you. Nothing is greater in this world than being a mother. Please take care of your health, get regular check ups and relax.
You can contact me whenever you want on this forum. You can post me a direct query if you wish to do so. I will be glad to help you.
Wish you good health.
regards,
Shanti.V.
Above answer was peer-reviewed by :
Dr. Chakravarthy Mazumdar
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