Hello
Half insertion , semen discharge , but condom was there and was acting as a barrier .
After that you removed condom and your penis was in contact with her vagina for almost 20 minute , that is the point of tension in your case .
Kissing , breast sucking and fingering were safe ( if there was not a cut in the finger).
If she was an HIV infected her cervical smear and vaginal fluid were also HIV infected then there was a great risk for you .
You got
sore throat and
fever , these are most prominent symptoms of HIV infection as well other
STD .
As you mentioned that there is swelling and irritation in your penis and testicles .
So these signs ( testicles & penis)and sore throat and fever may be due to STD , so please get in
VDRL test .
Window period time also passed so get in rapid P 24 nucleic acid amplification test for HIV confirmation ( pcr ,
rna).
So deal as mentioned above.