Dear service user, Thank you for writing to us. I can understand erectile dysfunction (ED) problem in your partner. It has significant psychological impact on both of you. I cannot understand meaning of we are TTc . Kindly clarify it. An occasional episode of erectile failure due to functional or situational reasons like fatigue, tension or own pressure to perform rather to enjoy is very common. This happens to most of the men. Once this happen, he becomes apprehensive prior to next sexual encounter and have obvious concern of quality of erection during next act. He focuses on the performance of his penis and tries his best to get hard rock erection by heart to satisfy the partner. There is remarkable anxiety and pressure in mind. The problem starts here. The mind now is under pressure to perform the best rather than just enjoying the kindle . This DIVERTS the mind from pleasure to pressure. For constant erection, continuous exciting/romantic/erotic feelings should be there in mind. If the mind is diverted to concern about erection, he will lose erection. So, for now onward, he should simply enjoy the kindling of sex, feel the touch and being touched by the partner. Caress you and focus on the pleasurable sensations he get by caressing. Do not bother about erection or quality of performance at all. Just enjoy, enjoy and enjoy. You practice this for next 30 days at each and every sexual encounter. Involve yourself with him in this behavior therapy exercise. Don’t let him under pressure to penetrative sex ‘to satisfy’ you for at least next 30 days. Discuss this with him freely without any shame or guilt. Stress and anxiety also affects sexual performance. Relax and think positively. Your problem is temporary and you will surely come out of it. Warm regards.