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How To Deal With A Very Insecure Husband?

HI, I have been in a controlling relationship for 12 months now. All my friends have seen it slowly happening as I have been changed by being with him. A I am strong independent woman but have resorted to counseling because of what this relationship is doing to me. I have tried to walk away several times but then he cries and sends me love poems and then the next minute he is telling me to lawyer up.. I love him but the constant criticism, control and checking on me all the time is way to much for me to handle.. He is so insecure wanting to know my every move who I ve been with and were I am and even when I tell him he says i m a liar..
Mon, 2 Mar 2015
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Welcome to HCM
We understand your concerns

I went through your details. The decision is always up to you and I think, what ever you are doing right now is right. To understand self, others takes time. In marital relationship it could take the whole life to understand each other. Marital relationship's success is mostly due to mutual respect and trust. But in your case, you and your husband has not lived enough to cultivate mutual trust and respect. Just be patient. Wait for things to brighten. I am sure it will happen. You are helping yourself by being understanding, loving him, to harness your own peace of mind. Ego should not work to help yourself.

If you require more of my help in this aspect, please use this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible.

Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.
Good luck.
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Psychologist,  Dr. Psychologist K. V. Anand's  Response
Dear
Welcome to HCM
We understand your concerns

I went through your details. The decision is always up to you and I think, what ever you are doing right now is right. To understand self, others takes time. In marital relationship it could take the whole life to understand each other. Marital relationship's success is mostly due to mutual respect and trust. But in your case, you and your husband has not lived enough to cultivate mutual trust and respect. Just be patient. Wait for things to brighten. I am sure it will happen. You are helping yourself by being understanding, loving him, to harness your own peace of mind. Ego should not work to help yourself.

If you require more of my help in this aspect, please use this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible.

Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications.
Good luck.
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How To Deal With A Very Insecure Husband?

Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. The decision is always up to you and I think, what ever you are doing right now is right. To understand self, others takes time. In marital relationship it could take the whole life to understand each other. Marital relationship s success is mostly due to mutual respect and trust. But in your case, you and your husband has not lived enough to cultivate mutual trust and respect. Just be patient. Wait for things to brighten. I am sure it will happen. You are helping yourself by being understanding, loving him, to harness your own peace of mind. Ego should not work to help yourself. If you require more of my help in this aspect, please use this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.