I have recently started seeing a man I like very much. He has not had sex for over 3 years, because his wife kept rejecting him. He says intercourse caused her to bleed. She had the problem fixed surgically, but wouldn't sleep with him again. He said he has no problem ejaculating through masturbation, and when we go to bed he seems extremely fired up, but at the moment of penetration his penis rapidly shrinks. He says he is afraid of losing me from his political party and also losing me as a friend if things don't work out between us. I think this man and I are highly compatible in various ways, but it also isn't long since his marriage broke up. What do you think?