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How To Treat Self-centeredness Caused By A Previously Failed Relationship?

I have a friend who I like and she feels the same for me. The problem is she had a bad relationship 4 years ago that has left her with looking out for herself and not anyone elses emotions. She has in the past put walls up with people who get close on a romantic levle, now its happening with me. Is there a disorder that this is associated with and how can I handle it without causing her harm?
Wed, 28 May 2014
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Hi, I had gone through your query and understood your concerns.

Sir, when a girl is emotionally bond to some one, she believes so much that she completely involves and leave the rest of the world. The same nature of such intense emotion once she is broken that she no more believes or always in a fear to get involved again and if a possibility comes, she runs away from it.

What you need to do is first analyse your self what you are upto to the girl and how much you need her. Keep away if you are any bit not sure. If you really want to go lifelong with her, then spend much time with her. Do such things that she feels happy. Make her believe world is not same and all are not same. Make her believe in what ever situation, what you can do for her.

Spend much time in her interesting things. Make her laugh. Be in her sadness. Support her.

Hope this guides you. For any other queries you can write to us.
All the best.
Dr Phanindra Dulipala.
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How To Treat Self-centeredness Caused By A Previously Failed Relationship?

Hi, I had gone through your query and understood your concerns. Sir, when a girl is emotionally bond to some one, she believes so much that she completely involves and leave the rest of the world. The same nature of such intense emotion once she is broken that she no more believes or always in a fear to get involved again and if a possibility comes, she runs away from it. What you need to do is first analyse your self what you are upto to the girl and how much you need her. Keep away if you are any bit not sure. If you really want to go lifelong with her, then spend much time with her. Do such things that she feels happy. Make her believe world is not same and all are not same. Make her believe in what ever situation, what you can do for her. Spend much time in her interesting things. Make her laugh. Be in her sadness. Support her. Hope this guides you. For any other queries you can write to us. All the best. Dr Phanindra Dulipala.