I am in my late 30s. I had started dating someone, and he was my first sexual partner after over 1/2 year. I always make who ever I'm with wear a condom, but with him, after he had told me he couldn't as he had scarring on his penis from a burn injury many years ago that prevented him from wearing a condom, we ended up starting a condom free relationship.

Still a little concerned, as I noticed his ejaculation was very white and thick. I asked him more about ex sexual partners. His last was 7 years ago he says, was never tested, but never showed any symptoms of anything, but said he would get tested for us, but still has yet to go.
Regardless I know, I am now paying for being so stupid not to have waited for for him to do this.

After around two weeks of having sex like rabbits, he had put his fingers up me without washing the massage oil off his fingers, and it burned bad. 24hrs later I was still burning up there, and was so itchy.

As my symptoms had seemed to subside after a few days, we summed it up to the massage oil being on his fingers.

We have now been dating just over 2 months now.

This last weekend with him my vagina was much more painful. I have light clear watery off smelling discharge. and it felt like he had bit my inner labia and left teeth cuts.
Regardless if he says he's had no symptoms, this now of course scares the hell out of me, as he had now informed me she was a cocaine user, and was found cheating on him.

Today I took my cell and took selfies of my vagina to see what was going on. I am now in shock and scared as hell to how my vagina looks.
There are little nodule looking lumps, the same color as the rest of the inside of me, pink, around inside of my vagina. I know there is something clearly wrong. I later today discovered little lumps on my outer labia, and a couple just outside the area. It's burns to pee when it hits the tender vaginal opening, and feel nauseous (the nausea could be from being so worried)

I've been googling photos to match what mine looks like and come up with similar photos of Bacterial Vaginosis, but also Trichomoniasis.(if there was an option, I'd upload a photo) but can't seem to find any that look just like my symptoms.

The thing I find odd is we are very open in our conversations, in emotions and sexual, and he's "always down there" (oral) but hasn't informed me of anything out of the norm. And seeing down there myself now, there is no way to miss that there is!
Now what stirs in my head and makes me so sick thinking about it, is he had said in our conversation of me being concerned about him passing me an STD was, "If you now have something, it's ok, we both have it now." and then cuddled up with me.
I of course freaked at this comment he made, but he assured me it was just him letting me know he loves me.

I am embarrassed/humiliated for being so stupid into being so trusting in having unprotected sex and to find out from my Dr. it probably is an STD.