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I Tried To Hurt Myself When I Hurt Someone. Can An Online Doctor Help Me ?

how can i be good and do good things ALL the time? i feel like i am a devil but sometimes i do bad things and stupid things and my mom calls me dum but i know she doesnt mean it but then i stole something from a sibling and it hurt them and then i did another thing witch hurt my mom so then i tried hurting myself by cutting my self and i did not do it i thought first so how can i be good and do good things ALL the time?
Tue, 3 Jan 2012
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NOBODY can ever be good allways to all people.

Statistically....it would not be possible to have a zero defect rate.

Psychologically.....a desire to be good to all and all the time means that you will be very stressed out by trying to achieve this unachievable goal

Also this desire may be characteristic of a personality where people want everything in order, everything on time, everything by the book etc...called "perfectionism" which causes problems to both the persons and to those around them

Also, this MAY mean that there have been things in the past, may be starting from childhood, which have made you think that YOU HAVE TO PLEASE EVERYONE ALL THE TIME TO BE HAPPY OR SAFE...this is entirely not correct.


So please concentrate on being able to accept yourself as a normal human being who is bound to make mistakes. Acceptance of your own fallibility should lead to you having more peace and contentment.
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I Tried To Hurt Myself When I Hurt Someone. Can An Online Doctor Help Me ?

NOBODY can ever be good allways to all people. Statistically....it would not be possible to have a zero defect rate. Psychologically.....a desire to be good to all and all the time means that you will be very stressed out by trying to achieve this unachievable goal Also this desire may be characteristic of a personality where people want everything in order, everything on time, everything by the book etc...called perfectionism which causes problems to both the persons and to those around them Also, this MAY mean that there have been things in the past, may be starting from childhood, which have made you think that YOU HAVE TO PLEASE EVERYONE ALL THE TIME TO BE HAPPY OR SAFE...this is entirely not correct. So please concentrate on being able to accept yourself as a normal human being who is bound to make mistakes. Acceptance of your own fallibility should lead to you having more peace and contentment.