I'm 16 and I have a few questions. I've also never been to and OBGYN. First off, I'm not a virgin and my regular Dr. Doesn't know this. I lost my v card at 14 to a really close friend of mine. He was a virgin to so I know he didn't have anything, but we didn't use a condom. I dint know pre-cum could impregnate me. I felt weird/sick for a while afterwards, and my period which came spot on every month stopped. It skips 3 months now and then light bleeding, before another 3,4,or months. Could I have been pregnant and miscarried? Secondly, I had masturbated with a toy before I lost my virginity. There wasn't any pain, but I know it went past where my hymen should have been. Is there anyway to tell, by examination, if I was born with a hymen at all? I haven't had my period in 4 months so far, but haven't had sex since I was 14. Could birth control help regulate it? How do I tell my mom I want a gyno apmt., and is the OBGYN sworn to confidentiality or can the tell my parents I'm not a virgin?