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Is Miserly Behaviour Towards Partner In A Relationship Acceptable?
Hi , my boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a year and a half now. He is a good guy for the most part but doesn t share my likes and is cheap. He will buy expensive things for himself but nothing for me. When I ask him, if he can buy me a perfume, dresses, or anything that might be 50 dollars or under, he tells me that he can t this week. He has to pay bills, etc. But meanwhile, he will buy cars for himself and just this week I asked him if he could get me a perfume and he said he couldn t but is going to buy patio furniture this week. I broke up with him because it just annoys me. Am I being unrealistic and to haste on my decision?
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Mon, 1 Jun 2015
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Hello,
Sorry to know about your break up. Miserly behavior towards partner in a relationship is painful. No, its not good. There should be love in a relationship there should be care and respect for each other likes, needs and wants. Sometimes, you can consider things but if it becomes a routine, it gets annoying because you may get the feeling of getting used. Never allow anyone to keep using you. Soon it can turn into abuse (physical or emotional). It's okay to compromise for material things provided the partner also compromises his needs for you sometimes.
It looks like he did not take the relationship in a matured way. You are suggested to give yourself time, get stable. Come out of the emotional hurt. Update yourself and take a little rest. Pamper yourself with some new clothes, good food and healthy beverage. Take quality sleep. You are suggested to get financially independent before indulging in any relationship so that no one ever treats you in the same way ever. Always be loving.
Never be wicked to anyone when you get bountifully blessed. Do not regret for whatever happened. May be you will get a better person in near future but do not haste. Get along with your life. Life is beautiful. When you indulge in the next relationship stay loving, caring and trustful. It matters.
Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr. Nupur K., General & Family Physician
Sorry to know about your break up. Miserly behavior towards partner in a relationship is painful. No, its not good. There should be love in a relationship there should be care and respect for each other likes, needs and wants. Sometimes, you can consider things but if it becomes a routine, it gets annoying because you may get the feeling of getting used. Never allow anyone to keep using you. Soon it can turn into abuse (physical or emotional). It's okay to compromise for material things provided the partner also compromises his needs for you sometimes.
It looks like he did not take the relationship in a matured way. You are suggested to give yourself time, get stable. Come out of the emotional hurt. Update yourself and take a little rest. Pamper yourself with some new clothes, good food and healthy beverage. Take quality sleep. You are suggested to get financially independent before indulging in any relationship so that no one ever treats you in the same way ever. Always be loving.
Never be wicked to anyone when you get bountifully blessed. Do not regret for whatever happened. May be you will get a better person in near future but do not haste. Get along with your life. Life is beautiful. When you indulge in the next relationship stay loving, caring and trustful. It matters.
Take care. Hope I have answered your question. Let me know if I can assist you further.
Regards,
Dr. Nupur K., General & Family Physician
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