HI Dr Grief and colleagues My husband (52) has not had a lot of luck with his genitals: one undescended testicle, operated on at age 7 fertility problems - low sperm, elevated FSH (I don t have the test results from 13 years ago to hand) erectile dysfunction which was always a problem but has got worse over the last 10 years slow urine flow, also getting worse He would like to wee, I would like to have sex. He feels like a failure and I think the ED contributed to some behaviours which I couldn t understand and which nearly cost us our marriage. The fertility clinic and various specialist doctors didn t, as far as I know, talk about the emotional side of his physical problems. So where do we start? Yours, A O