Dear Welcome to HCM We understand your concerns I went through your details. I suggest you not to worry much. Pain management is an art which needs to practiced and mastered individually. Such mastering comes with experience. Any therapist can provide you with the hints and guidelines which are usually general. Some psychotherapists may come with individualized guidelines, but not always. Then the client himself learns the basic theme and starts trying. You lack such a try. That is why your therapist is annoyed. He cannot teach you everything. Just imagine teaching a child walk, initially we guide with hands, then with motivation, then nothing. Child tries and learns just by himself. Learn from your experiences. If you require more of my help in this aspect, Please post a direct question to me in this website. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. I shall prescribe some psychotherapy techniques which should help you cure your condition further. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.